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Why is she better than me...???

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singlemum2 · 14/11/2010 15:31

My ex (Fiancé) just announced he is getting married next year in May....I am feeling sick and cant stop crying. Am completely distraught. We were planning to get married OURSELVES in September next year. This is so so upsetting.

A little bit of background. We had our second child 5 months ago. He left us when DD was only 5 weeks old. He left me for this woman he dated back in 1992. They got in touch after years through facebook!
I love this arse and am trying so hard to move on but news like this bring me right down to where I was three months ago.
I reacted to the news quite normal. Didn?t show any emotions to him. But as soon as he left with our DS i started crying. I want to confront him when he gets back. Ask why. I wana know why he doesn?t love me any more, I want to know what I have done wrong. All these years we were together, He was always sayin I am the only one for him, he only loves me and will only ever marry me if ever gets married. I wana know whats changed. Is IT WISE TALKIN TO HIM? Or I shall i just grit my teeth and get on with it. It is so painful though. I wana know what she?s got that I haven?t. He [promised we be together forever!!!
Please help, please make me feel better...

OP posts:
WhenwillIfeelnormal · 15/11/2010 13:34

Yes you do know how to do it. You've done it before. We are telling you how to do it.

Get back to the GP, but for you this time. Ask for some NHS funded therapy, or if you can afford it, go to a private practitioner or Relate.

Get your allies in RL to read this thread and support this message. Take help from wherever it's offered at the moment. Do everything in your power to detach from this man and insist that your allies pull you up whenever you idealise his qualities. Give them permission to tell you how he really is.

cindystill · 15/11/2010 17:29

Have you read the book - Women Who Love Too Much?

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