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Which contraception? I don't like any of them.

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 13:15

Right that's final.
I've had baby number four. My periods have just come back so I'm fertile. I need to make sure I don't conceive again but I don't like any of the options open.

I don't want anything which messes with my hormones so that rules out the pill and the coil.
I don't want surgery for either of us.
The Diaphragm isn't very reliable plus I don't like the spermicide. Condoms, well need I expain?

I'd really like to control it by myself or with something like the Persona. Is there a foolproof (or at least a reliable) method of charting your cycle and avoiding times of ovulation.

Any experience anyone?

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katierocket · 19/09/2005 13:18

you don't have to have the coil that includes hormones. The one I had was just a coil - no hormones involved.

puddle · 19/09/2005 13:19

Coil best of a bad bunch for me too. I have the non hormone one. I know many many people who have got pregnant using persona. Double figures.

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 13:25

Yes, most of my friends swear by the coil.
Not that I'm deeply religeous, but I don't like the fact that the coil doesn't prevent fertilisation. It prevents implantation. I wish I didn't care about this as life would be easier, but I do.

I really want some kind of method of charting my cycle.
Possibly this is unrealist and idealistic?

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dinosaur · 19/09/2005 13:25

I feel like that too Spidermama (except I'm stopping one earlier). In fact, my period is about an hour late and I'm sitting here panicking already .

Atm we use condoms but I am seriously thinking of getting my tubes tied. I wouldn't be happy about relying on charting my cycle. However there is a very good book called "Taking control of your fertility" by (I think) Toni Weschler about doing just that. I used it when I was ttc but as she points out, you can also use it to avoid conceiving. Well, that's the theory anyway...

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 13:28

Thanks dinosaur. I'll look that one up.
We're using condoms atm. Not ideal is it?

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dinosaur · 19/09/2005 13:29

No, but darned if I can come up with a better alternative. I feel exactly as you do about the coil. I can cope with the idea of my unfertilised eggs just going down the pan, but not fertilised ones!

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 13:30

Me too. Inconvenient though.

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dinosaur · 19/09/2005 13:31

Yes. Also I do recall vividly that Twinkie (an erstwhile mumsnetter, not around much now) got pg when her coil went awol...

jenk1 · 19/09/2005 13:32

i will be watching this thread with interest.
Me and DH are using condoms but i keep getting thrush and am convinced its because of that also i am religious and dont agree with the coil so cant see any other alternative at the moment except abstination which for me would be but not for DH!

RachD · 19/09/2005 13:33

I feel like you Spidermama.
I don't like any contraception.
We have never used anything.
I don't 'chart' my cycle, but I know roughly.
Not that I'm suggesting this method for anyone else !!!!
How accurately can you 'chart' ?

Roobie · 19/09/2005 13:33

My mum used to teach the Billings Method .... and yes, it is particularly popular with RC's but not least because it has proven to be very reliable when followed correctly.
Billings

Iklboo · 19/09/2005 13:36

DH & I are thinking about this as well - even though I'm not due to have junior for another 7 weeks.
I can't go back on the pill cos I'll be breastfeeding. Think the same thing applies to implants etc.
Have heard the coil can give you wicked thrush?
Despise condoms - no spontaneity, always make me sore no matter how well lubricated I am (and I don't mean gin!). Also don't fancy diaphragm either.
I've offered to have tubes tied (I'm 36 - junior will be our one and only) but DH won't hear of it - says childbirth is enough for me to go through without an op - even keyhole.
DH has said he will have the snip (he's 28) but when would have to have it (now ?)
Decisions, decisions

motherinferior · 19/09/2005 13:39

I really wouldn't advocate Persona. I haven't used it myself but it is how various very splendid MNers became MNers.

My only attempt to Take Charge Of My Cycle - which is like clockwork - resulted in DD1

Satine · 19/09/2005 13:41

If you definitely don't want any more kids then I'm not convinced that Persona or charting would be the best method - a good friend of mine says she concieved when Persona told her it was the safest time of her cycle. How does your dh feel about the snip?

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 13:48

Yes I also know a few Persona babies. I wonder, though, if they were caused by operator error rather than faulty product. I don't know.

DH won't have snip and I wouldn't want him to either.

Dinosaur I have just ordered Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler from Amazon. I'm very excited.
I'll let you know how I get on and hope I don't 'see' you on the pregnancy threads.

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Kidstrack2 · 19/09/2005 14:07

Coil without the hormones? Just a plain coil that stops any egg nesting in the lining of your womb! Or the Implanon implant that has just the one hormone, or the mini pill same hormone as implanon.

Listmaker · 19/09/2005 14:10

I used Persona - exactly as instructed. When it was 'red' days used a cap and got pg with dd after about 2 months!! I know when I ovulate (and got pg with dd2 straight away by doing it when I was - and only then as we weren't getting on well by then!). So I always reckon the cap let me down but I'll never know!

What about a diaphagm/cap arrangement? Lacking spontaneity I guess.

If the coil and the pill aren't for you then it's going to have to be condoms or one of you being sterilised I think!

My new dp has had the snip and that's lovely - no worrying about it anymore!

bonym · 19/09/2005 14:12

spidermama - just to let you know that I used the methods in Toni Weschler's book for about a year for contraceptive purposes (in fact up until we decided we wanted to conceive, which we then did very quickly!). My periods have also recently come back (dd2 is 6mths) and I am going to start charting again.
Dh was very sceptical when I first started(in fact we had a bit of a row about it ) but now thinks it's great, and asked me a couple of nights again when I was going to start again. You just need to use condoms during your fertile period (which is only a few days a month).

waterfalls · 19/09/2005 14:13

Wouls you reconsider srerilisation, I was in and out of hostpital in 4 hours, was perfectly mobile instantly (just a slight ache} no after effects and no scars.

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 14:33

Ahhh bonym! Posts from heaven. I hoped to hear of this sort of success and always feel deep down it should be possible if one has a regular cycle (I do) and if one is diligent (I can work on that!).

Thanks. I'll start charting then.

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RachD · 19/09/2005 14:36

O.K. so which is best ?
We have discounted Persona.
Billings or Toni Weschler ?

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 14:38

I'll be doing both in combination I reckon. I've just ordered the Weschler book so it'll take a while to get it up and running.

Condoms or abstinence in the meantime then.

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