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Which contraception? I don't like any of them.

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 13:15

Right that's final.
I've had baby number four. My periods have just come back so I'm fertile. I need to make sure I don't conceive again but I don't like any of the options open.

I don't want anything which messes with my hormones so that rules out the pill and the coil.
I don't want surgery for either of us.
The Diaphragm isn't very reliable plus I don't like the spermicide. Condoms, well need I expain?

I'd really like to control it by myself or with something like the Persona. Is there a foolproof (or at least a reliable) method of charting your cycle and avoiding times of ovulation.

Any experience anyone?

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Shades1 · 19/09/2005 18:14

hi Spidermama

I can't take the pill, and did have a coil, ended up in A&E having it removed (non hormone one) had to have it put in when condom burst and unable to have the morning after pill.

Used persona for 2 years before deciding to have DS1 and again for another 18 months before deciding to have DS2 - was religious with testing and abstaining on red days.

DH was snipped 6 months after DS2 arrived, we definitely don't want any more babies, and it's fantastic

Milliways · 19/09/2005 18:15

Another vote for sterilization - One day procedure, no adverse effects & no more worries.

stitch · 19/09/2005 18:21

the only foolproof way is abstention. works wonders. i can thoroughly recommend it.

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 18:41

Nice idea stitch.
I fear then I may be expected to be more 'creative' with love making methods which could be annoying.

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bonym · 19/09/2005 19:46

RachD - Tonie Weschler's book is about the Fertility Awareness Method which encompasses temperature charting together with observation of cervical mucus (which I believe is the Billings Method). The combination of the two makes it fairly fool-proof (well as much any contraception is). She also suggests observing the condition of your cervix if you want a third check but I've never been able to bring myself to do this for some reason .

maturer · 19/09/2005 21:08

bonym , sounds like a perfect contraceptive- by the time you've done all that observing of bits and mucus stuff who'd be in the mood for sex?

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 21:13

No maturer (tut, rolls eyes). You keep across the state of your cycle daily and know in advance when you're fertile. You don't have a poke around just before sex to try to ascertain it.

I'm very keen to give it a go.

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berolina · 19/09/2005 21:15

(mini-hijack)
does anyone know how likely you are to get pg if bf and period-free - sort of a Pearl index for bf as contraceptive? (I know it's not one but am wondering whether to take the risk)

wysiwyg · 19/09/2005 21:20

Sorry if this has already been suggested but what about the non-hormonal coil, but still do charting so it would just be like the coil was your safety net.
I have a coil but really do feel the same as you about it - ie would prefer to stop fertilisation altogether - but it really was the least intrusive/ best bet of all the options (having tried pill, cap, condoms & coil)Oh.... and morning after pill

expatinscotland · 19/09/2005 21:26

DH has chosen the snip. Very simple, VERY effective, very cheap.

I have the same issues w/the coil. I also don't like the idea of one migrating in my uterus.

trefusis · 19/09/2005 21:27

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bonym · 19/09/2005 21:57

maturer - actually much more in the mood than when I was on the pill . Don't be such a cynic! .

Seriously - it takes hardly any time at all - a minute every morning to take your temperature and then check your mucus each time you go to the loo.

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spidermama · 19/09/2005 23:02

Here's a worry for me, and feel free to disagree but ....
My husband says there's a taboo about vasectomy- related depression. He has talked to other men who agree, (some who have and some who haven't had the snip). I don't know if there's been any research on the subject, but it makes me (and more to the point him) very wary.

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Tortington · 19/09/2005 23:24

forgive my heathenness but i think thats a bag of old shite. he doesnt want a doctor playing henry the 8ths juggler with his balls, making them so sore the bruises are black. making it so painful he is scared of having a bath. bruises that stretch black down his inner thigh covering a much larger area, wondering whether they have messed up his tackle and whether he will ever be able to erm " arrive" again and whether it will feel the same now thats what they talk about. and they can talk about it all they want but until they have given birth they can kiss my hairy arse if they think i am having another doctor sticking anything else up my punani thank you very much.

or have more babies

motherinferior · 20/09/2005 12:12

Custy, I think I love you.

piglit · 20/09/2005 12:19

LOL at custardo! Spot on - that's exactly the same reasoning my friend's dh used. Said he'd heard that having the snip might cause him problems with his "manhood" (he was worried he wouldn't be able to get it up any more) and that it might cause depression blah blah. She told him that 2 difficult pgs (and births) and worrying every month about getting pg was making her depressed so there was no sex until he had the snip. Worked a treat. She says having the snip has done wonders for their sex life and he hasn't suffered at all.

expatinscotland · 20/09/2005 12:19

Bravo, Custo! NEVER heard such a load of utter bollocks in my life!

It's a simple, in-office, cheap, effective procedure with minimum pain. The man doesn't even have to take his bloody top off, ffs! He WALKS out of the doctor's office and is able to be up and about immediately! It's a no scalpel method.

My dad, BIL and FIL have all had the snip, and never had a single complication or problem.

They all agree it was the best thing going after their wives went through pregnancy and delivery.

dinosaur · 20/09/2005 12:31

I'm going to show this thread to DH, I think. Maybe.

expatinscotland · 20/09/2005 12:33

The NHS does provide free vasectomy. There is about a 6 month wait list in our area, but there's no extra charge for it, and it's all really simple.

FAR cheaper than buying Persona refills, condoms, or getting pregnant again.

roosmum · 20/09/2005 12:54

spidermama - like MI, my encounter with Billings AND the Weschler book (& i like to think i tried to do all the observing/charting properly) resulted in ds, now 7 mths old! like you i'm not keen on any forms of contraception really, but i think i'll give 'taking charge of your fertility' a miss next time: more like 'your fertility takes charge of you' ime.

prettyfly1 · 20/09/2005 13:43

dont even consider the bloody injection, its a sodding nightmare. i had it a month and a half ago and have bled ever since. i know its supposed to be ninety nine percent effective - didnt realise that was cause it actually physically stops you having sex.

Janbo25 · 26/09/2005 08:34

I've just posted a new thread about persona because i'm thinking of giving it a try, anyone got any experience?

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