So angry with dp's callousness, i just want to hit him!

[colditz]

I started bleeding again yesterday, am 9 weeks pg, and have been told I have to go to the EPU and have a scan. So I phoned in sick at work, and I usually work evenings.

Dp took this opportunity to go out with his friends, come in at 3am, and heave all night, totally incapable of looking after out 2 year old today.

He has already had a jug of cold water on his head for moping on the sofa, but I am unspeakably hurt and angry that he left me on my own last night of all nights, and left me to get up with our son this morning.

What are your thoughts on this? If I'm being unfair, say so.

I think he's selfish but it could be his way of coping I guess! Either way, make him suffer for at least teh entire weekend extending into the week if necessary

Doesnt sound like at at all. Selfish Bugger. You ok, or as ok as you could be? When are you going for the scan?

I can't make him suffer, he doesn't think he has done anything wrong, and I am a bitch for complaing.

I am ok, not getting any pain with the bleeding, so that's a good sign. i have a scan on wednesday.

how can you not make him suffer? I bet we could all come up with good tips

i think he has behaved like a selfish pig
no wonder you feel hurt. Good on you pouring the water on him!

I know how you feel, my dh did similar things when i was pregnant and is still up to his tricks now.

I think men just do not have any understanding of a womans feelings, or what we go through with being pregnant and looking after children.

Hope everything turns out o.k for you. hugs .

Where is he now? If hes in bed get the music and the hoover on. Loudly.

No he's sitting on the sofa drinking a cup of coffee.

He has spent so long in the bathroom this morning, I haven't even got dressed, but at least I was forced to suppress my morning sickness.

He stinks of beer, won't go for a shower, and is making me feel sick.

I hate him so much this morning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He's unreasonable imo. He needs to grow up.

Have you asked him how he would feel if, God forbid, you lost the baby?

I am SURE that is NOT going to happen - bleeding in early pregnancy is VERY common (happened to me and probably half the mums here, PLEASE don't worry, everything will be fine) but it may shock him into thinking about what he is doing - especially if you tell him that his behaviour is putting you under so much stress that it may be causing this.

I don't know, maybe that is wrong, perhaps it is but I just know I would say it, that I would blame him. It is maybe not sensible or practical 'proper' advice - in fact, it's not really advising at all, but it is how my heart would feel.

I know everyone on here despises the dreaded hugs, so I will pat you on the shoulder and then offer you a bar of whole nut and a friendly smile! x

mine always manages to spend ages washing/shaving/pampering himself - who ever said WOMEN take ages in the bathroom?

also, if he has a hangover, he HAS to spend half a day in bed and be utterly useless for at least 24 hrs. Men are useless gits sometimes - you should tell him straight that you won't put up with this behaviour atm, and tell him clearly what you expect of hiim - in the nicest possible way, though - don't get his back up even if you're (justifiably) angry - it's the end result that counts, remember

Hit him. Don't care if that's HIS way of coping, he should be helping you cope, selfish git.

roar!!!

he is still in the bloody shower!!!

i woke him up 2 hours ago

and he has done sweet bugger all bar pamperfy himself!!!

switch the electric off, or better still the hot water.....it may wake him up to reality!

Get yourself dressed, leave the baby with him and go out, go to a cafe get a coffee and something nice to eat, or go to family/friends - make him cope with his hangover.

echo all others - it is very selfish of him, but now is not the time to talk to him, you take care of you and leave him to himself, and if he's not capable of looking after his child then he needs to apply moderation to his night out, he's got responsibilies and isn't a single man any more !

Harharhar he has taken ds into town to get electric

I am vegging in a pj top and fleece blanket.

I threw up in the loo while he was in the shower, and told him I was throwing up because I am stressed, and I am stressed because he is a knob.

Oh, and the electric actually did run out while he was in the shower!!!!!1 harharhar

Someone up there is on my side today!

You go girl

I'd be very tempted to make him bleed...

Colditz, what an arse. Yes, it may be his way of coping, but it's hardly helpful to you!

Hope scan goes well - why is it that bleeds like this always happen at weekends when the EPU is shut?! I know mine did! (bled painlessly with DS - he's fine)

Selfish git. When you have kids, you need to have the maturity to learn to 'cope' with things in other ways besides going out and getting wasted.

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Exactly, rickman!

He really does not seem to give a shit about this pregnancy

He thinks me bleeding is "only like a period, and not even as heavy"

He was exactly the same when I was pregnant with ds, he is now a doting father, just doesn't give a shit about me if it disrupts his life to do so.

Effin hate him sometimes.