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Original poster

how often do you go out with partner/ friends?

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moretolife · 15/09/2005 19:59

i'm sure the answers will make me depressed but let's hear them anyway! my answer would be with partner - maybe twice a year, with friends, maybe couple of times a month. Am i the saddest No-Life on here?

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Mum2girls · 15/09/2005 20:00

I go out with friends maybe 6 times a year (include Xmas do's here)- me an 'im indoors have had perhaps 4 nights out this year so far.

This is a vast improvement on prev years

charliecat · 15/09/2005 20:01

Well with friends I have been out twice in a nine year relationship and am going round to a friends this weekend to watch movies...that will be my 3rd outing in 9 years. With dp, once a year together if we are lucky.

WigWamBam · 15/09/2005 20:06

No, you're not the saddest no-lifer on here. I get out with dh maybe twice a year, and I never get to go out with friends. You're not coming out too badly at the moment, are you!

expatinscotland · 15/09/2005 20:10

Go out? That would require money. LOL! Two times a year - on our birthdays, we go out for a bite to eat and the ILs babysit.

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moretolife · 15/09/2005 20:11

I'm delighted! I feel like a wild society girl now! I'm off up to party in the loft!!

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starshaker · 15/09/2005 20:11

out????? there is an out must have forgotten

kama · 15/09/2005 20:11

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expatinscotland · 15/09/2005 20:12

Loft? For a party?

I used to drink too much. I did more than my share of going out in the 32 years before I had DD.

Can't say I miss it much these days, although I would fancy going out w/DH for a meal more often.

That would involve a Lotto win, though.

Aimsmum · 15/09/2005 20:14

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Flossam · 15/09/2005 20:15

Have been out 4 times this year. Twice with 'im and twice with friends

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moretolife · 15/09/2005 20:16

sorry, loft refers to my other post on about are you living the life you envisaged. (that was a 'no' to that one!)

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Lonelymum · 15/09/2005 20:16

I would say about the same as WWB: maybe twice a year with dh and never with friends. Friends? What are they?

Frayedknot · 15/09/2005 20:17

I can beat you all, I can beat you all!

Since we moved 5 weeks ago

Partner - Never
Friends - Never

Due to the fact that our babysitter (dm) is now 150 miles away and so are all my friends.

I think I'd better get some quotes for a loft conversion.

expatinscotland · 15/09/2005 20:18

Over 5 weeks? That's puppy stuff, frayed! Try last February. Oh, I went for drinks in March one evening for a works function. Two drinks and it was go home time.

cod · 15/09/2005 20:18

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spidermama · 15/09/2005 20:18

I rarely bother nowadays.
We went out on our 15th wedding anniversary. We took the baby though.
Even if I get home early I'm still knackered next day and I've got so much to do it's just not worth it.

cod · 15/09/2005 20:19

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moretolife · 15/09/2005 20:21

seriously though, what stops you going out?Lack of time? lack of money? lack of babysitters? lack of interest? lack of ...err, anything else? for me it would be the 1st three, in reverse order.

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spidermama · 15/09/2005 20:22

Lack of energy after looking after 4 small kids. Every time I do go out with dh I love it. I reckon we'll do it more when the kids are older. In fact, I'm counting on it.

expatinscotland · 15/09/2005 20:23

Gees, let's see: we have three jobs between the two of us and barely make the rent, much less make a dent in our debt load. We eat meat 3x/week but have to go veg the rest.

That puts the kabosh on 'going out'.

Also being exhausted.

Lonelymum · 15/09/2005 20:33

I would say for us the reason is lack of babysitters closely followed by a lack of money. It is hard to find anyone who is prepared to look after 4 kids or who is able to do so. Any offers gratefully received!

weesaidie · 15/09/2005 20:41

I go out about twice a week, usually when dd is at her dads. Always with friends or family as I am single. I am very lucky I have loads of babysitters.

catsmother · 15/09/2005 20:56

I've been out twice with DP this year, not at all at other times. Money is a huge factor, as are babysitters. We don't know anyone who can babysit where we now live and have to rely on the odd bit of sitting from MIL .... trouble is, she lives 2+ hours away, so any sitting turns into a whole weekend of MIL and whilst trying not to sound ungrateful, it's not very conducive to romance if she's waiting up for us !

I'm not happy to get someone out of the newsagent's window, or from the local paper to sit, but would be okay about using an agency - however, they are so prohibitively expensive (for us) that that's no go too.

I'm hoping in time I might get to know other local mums and we can do reciprocal sitting but appreciate it'll take time to build up that level of trust.

It's damn frustrating and I hate the fact we have so little couple time. Also hate the fact I've lost touch with former colleagues and friends due to the distance and inability - practically - to go out.

compo · 15/09/2005 20:58

I go out with dh when it's a birthday or anniversary as we only have one babysitter and don't want to abuse her! I go out with friends usually once a week. We go to Wetherspoons for cheap food and drink

Lacrimosa · 15/09/2005 20:59

Once a week, we go to the 'cimina'! though it can cost quite a bit! we pay our babysitter well! she is in her last year of nurse training and has looked after our kids for the past 3 years, we dont have ANYONE else to look after our kids!