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how often do you go out with partner/ friends?

56 replies

moretolife · 15/09/2005 19:59

i'm sure the answers will make me depressed but let's hear them anyway! my answer would be with partner - maybe twice a year, with friends, maybe couple of times a month. Am i the saddest No-Life on here?

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newmumhelp · 15/09/2005 21:13

About once every two weeks with dp, and never with friends, and i feel hard done to with that. Once or twice a week would be very very good, as ds goes to bed at 8.30pm so he'd hardly know i'm gone, but can't really abuse the babysitting situation, and we're not exactly flush at the moment either!!

Orinoco · 15/09/2005 22:04

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JonesTheSteam · 16/09/2005 10:45

Have been out about 4 times with my dh this year - probably a little more often with friends - but have had lots of weddings, hen nights etc. this year - so unusual then!!!

Orinoco - Mission Impossible was released in 1996 - please tell me you meant Mission Impossible 2

Angeliz · 16/09/2005 10:49

I went out when i was about 4 months pregnant with dd2 and haven't been out since (she's 6 months now).
I know dp would like to go out for a meal but my mam is hardly ever here now and i don't let anyone else babysit.

Also i stopped smoking when i got pregnant and i know it sounds SO sad but i'd really want a smoke if i went out!

lou33 · 16/09/2005 11:28

We have to socialise separately as we can't get babysitters for so many kids

pjsmum · 16/09/2005 11:31

last time with dp, was 6 months pregnant (dd is 7months now) Went out with friends for the first time since Xmas last Friday. Reasons- money, lack of,babysitters, too tired, can't be bothered, makes the next day a nightmare cos you are tired and since giving up when pregnant really, really hate fag smoke. I know ex smokers are the worst!

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moretolife · 16/09/2005 13:07

GOING OUT TONIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! can someone remind me what you do when you Go Out?!

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kelli22 · 16/09/2005 13:41

depends on money, im the one who feels guilty if i spend money on things like drinks or a meal as you could buy a weeks food shopping for what you spend on one meal.

normally i would say we go out together every few months so prob about 4 times a year, we usually have no probs getting a baby sitter though that may change when theres two of them....

my dp goes out once a week (usually just to a mates house)

we're both 23 btw

starting to think i need to get out more, last time i mentioned going out he said we cant afford it (but i will be going its for my birthday in december, last time i went out was for my birthday last december, he'll have to chain me up to stop me lol)

NotActuallyAMum · 16/09/2005 13:47

DP and I go somewhere on our own every 4 weeks (his job doesn't allow for any more than this) and we also take his dd for a pub meal probably once a month

With friends, probably every 2 months (don't actually have many friends - this is a works night out)

My exP and I were together for 14 years, we had no children and, despite protests, he took me out just 3 times - then he wondered why I left him!

crazydazy · 16/09/2005 14:43

On reading some of these threads I think we go out quite a lot (every 2 weeks) but to me its nowhere near enough. I always want to go out at weekends, dp isn't bothered either way. Don't go out on my own as my mates don't bother asking anymore as they know I will probably say no.

I think when it gets to Friday I am just ready to have a nice night out away from the house and kids.....we weren't going out tonight but now I have that desire to go!!

Pomi · 16/09/2005 20:17

Before dss it was once in two/three months usually for a meal or to watch movie. Only went out once after having them (last year) and that was to watch pride and preduice(the indian one).
Never been out with friends.

Passionflower · 16/09/2005 21:15

weekends away with DH about twice a year.

Dinner out with DH, whenever he surprises me or whenever I ask him to take me out. We tend to go out with friends together as we have the same friends and quite often have friends round for dinner - formally and informally (can be dining room or plates on laps depending on what mood we're in).

motherinferior · 16/09/2005 21:20

I am trying to remember when I last went out with DP - oh yes, it was his birthday, beginning of August. Beloved friend babysat.

With friends: not as often as I should, because of the not getting my knackered arse into gear often enough. Am going out to see a friend for dinner tomorrow but that is partly because DP got back too damn late for us (me and said friend) to go out on Monday.

I don't, as I often lament, get out much.

Tortington · 16/09/2005 22:20

go out with dh once every other week
go out with other people once a month on average.

but not gone out with dh tonight cos he is defo getting on my bresticles

winnie · 17/09/2005 08:00

DH and I go out once or twice a week at the moment. We are actively trying to repair a damaged relationship. It is really nice doing this. Mostly we go out to a country pub for a pint and a chat (rarely spending more than 10-12 pounds + babysitting) sometimes we go to the cinema (about the same price) and we also do things like go to a favourite spot and sit under the stars and talk. It took along time for us to feel comfortable doing any of this because we weren't used to spending time alone in this way & we felt we couldn't afford it but it really is worth it and has become our priority and is making a difference.

I see friends for coffee and a chat regularly but I rarely see friends for a night out and this is something I am working on so next weekend I am off to a concert with a great friend of mine from uni who I used to go to concerts with on a regular basis. hurrah to getting my life back

mummyhill · 17/09/2005 11:10

Friends hardly ever as they have all moved at least 100 miles away although we do talk to each othe on the phone at least twice a week. I manage to go out with DH and no children on our wedding anniversary and we didn't even manage that this year will have to see if we can get a sitter to go out to a christmas function this year.

However if you include coffee mornings/toddlergroups then I actually manage to get out three times a week.

Shades1 · 17/09/2005 11:19

DH and I go out together once a month on or around pay day. During football season he goes out to watch the football as often as it's on. I go out with work friends about once every other month, but this has only started since April this year, go out with my sister once every other month, and maybe see my other friend for a coffee or a chat about 3 times a year although we e-mail most days and chat about once a week.

We go out with the children, we try every week, to do something the children like.

This week DH was out on Tuesday, Thursday and he'll be out tomorrow - I went out last night - he was so hungover yesterday he had to take the day off work, I was up doing the boys breakfast today !

calcium · 17/09/2005 20:12

going out together???? we have been out once together and that was for a whole night away from everyone yippeeee... thats it for the last year.

He goes out several times a month, I go to friends for weekends but take the kids does that count?

I also got out for a weekend once a year with my best friend.

We did have a babysitter who was a friends Aupair but she went back to Turkey a year ago and then I have had to count on friends as we have no family near. I am now getting really fed up socialising seperately as we have a good mutual friends 40th coming up and have other friends staying so I am trying to find a babysitter for 4 kids, 2 babies which is near impossible guess who will end up staying in, and this time I am NOT happy... I want to go out with my partner as I can't remember what its like!!

MummyJules · 17/09/2005 21:12

Since having DD (3 yrs ago this week) we have only been out once for my 22nd Birthday. I go out reguarly every tuesday evening as I run a Gospel Choir and I would count that as socialising friends as I always look forward to it and have a laugh and we quite often go to the pub afterwards. Go out with the mums from my local toddler group once a month and probably go out with childless friends once every couple of weeks for a drink or the cinema. If DP can't babysit which is quite often as he reguarly works lates at the hospital then I get my Dad to babysit.

paolosgirl · 17/09/2005 21:16

With DH - very rarely, sadly. About 3/4 times a year?

webmum · 19/09/2005 10:12

1-2 a week with dh, since getting aupair!!!

Pre aupair, it was more like 1-2 a month due to high price of babysitters and difficulty of booking them, now we can just decide ona whim whenever he's home at a decent hour!

friends, about once a month, but I do see them a lot during the day!

dropinthe · 19/09/2005 10:15

I go out on my own with my Dh about twice a year!
That seems to have been the average since our kids came along.I only go out with friends maybe 3 times a year and with other couples with kids a couple more.
I don't really "Do" going out!

I really miss it too!

Lasvegas · 19/09/2005 13:30

1 - 2 times a week with DP - dinner or movies.
6 times a year with friends (hardly have any friends after having DD and change in lifestyle).
Night away in hotel with DP 4 times a year.
His mum, my mum and sister sit we also have AP. Negative is reducing privacy but positive means we have a sitter on tap. DP often away at short notice so imposs to book commercial sitter. I feel little guilt spending loads of money on a night out. If DD didn't spend his money on us he would spend it treating friends to dinner etc.

saf1 · 19/09/2005 13:36

No I think I can beat that..Lets see went out with dh on our anniversary in June since then not at all prior to that no at all...no babysitters even though we have family living round the corner!! Don't like to ask and they don't offer.
Friends maybe meet up with dd2 1-2 times a week on my own...NEVER!!!!!!!

Where has my life gone??!!

Still have very little money at mo so.... keep smilin