Did you marry the first person you slept with?

[talleyrand]

Did you end up marrying the first person you slept with? If so, how did it work out, and how did that affect your marriage?

• Did you feel the bond was stronger because you had had no previous lover?

• Or did it create a subtle sense that you had missed out on some of the excitement that life has to offer?

On MN I often read people saying things along the lines of the first alternative, but for me, in retrospect, it was more like the second. Am I the only one?

point mal....

Erm, that he's a self indulgent tosser, that's it really.

Oh I remember him posting that Mal! Laughed my socks off. What a diddy.

Oh my. Has this been submitted to Pseuds Corner yet or shall I?

Arf.

So the OP is sucking out the marrow of life is he?.......I presume he has got rid of all mod-cons then and is living in the woods?

NO he is just spouting rubbish to justify his affair and quite plainly has no RL friends if he can't discuss such topics!

Kindly remove yourself......trot on.

I think it's hysterical. Is he an MP do we think?

I'm off to go and suck the marrow out of, erm, a marrow

I'm soooo glad I'm not married to the first person I had sex with, I think he's in prison or something now.

Personally I think had I married the first person I slept with it would've held me back, not just because I'd have only had sex with one person, but in my life, I think I would've done less, travelled less, not achieved as much.

Oh FFS

Problem?

No S - not you! Sorry!! It was aimed at the OP!!!!

"Personally I think had I married the first person I slept with it would've held me back, not just because I'd have only had sex with one person, but in my life, I think I would've done less, travelled less, not achieved as much."

Interesting that you feel that way Sas - I feel that I've had a far better and more interesting life for having married young - we lived all over the UK and in Germany, we've travelled the world together and supported each other through various career changes over the last 25 years.

Horses for courses I guess, I would not change a single thing about my life ( apart from DH going away to war when DD was 6 months old that is).

Talleyrand do you think you might have given out just a bit too much information to be anonymous any more?

Ah, cool janinlondon, I thought I'd done something wrong

I guess the difference is MalificentBloodandSand you were lucky enough to meet the right person to do all that with when you were young, I didn't

Did you end up marrying the first person you slept with? If so, how did it work out, and how did that affect your marriage? No, but I wish I had married the second one I slept with or waited for DH.

My DH married the first person he slept with.

I'm not going to comment on what I think of the OP (it's an honest question, and I just don't see the point of berating him, even if he is doing something I don't agree with. He's in a position many millions over the world are).

To answer the question, I didn't marry the first person I slept with, I think for a lot of people, you change a lot in your twenties, and with careers, etc, I tend to think, picking a ball park figure (at random), a lot of people aren't ready to settle down at 25, and I wasn't going to wait until I was 25 to lose my virginity.

my first husband had only ever slept with me, we got together when we were 17 (alhough i had been with quite a few by then )

it always bothered me that he would wish he had slept with more people, but he said he didn't mind.

point 1) he was absolutely SHIT IN BED :o

point 2) when we split up, he must hjave shagged at least 20 girls in the first year we broke up :o so i think he definitely wanted to make up for lost time!

Yes
Yes
Occasionally, but I have no regrets and would do the same again

I haven't married anyone yet. I've shagged about 25 people, I think. A couple of them I couldn't - at least not at the time - have got married to on account of them being women too.

Oh dear oh dear oh dear. TR does she know you are posting on here??? She is going to have a fit.

VV - do you know who this dickhead is? Or, do you know who he is shagging?

Would be rude not to share.

no didnt marry the 1st person i slept with

though my mum thinks i did lol [hgrin]

No.

But having slept with many, I can promise you, you aren't missing out on much.

It's not exciting to have your heart broken or learn the hard way that you're the type who can't detach emotion from sex.

Not to mention the ones who were dreadful excuses for sex.

Malificence my darling, I fear I may. And the MN involved will not be at all happy about it. The silence from OP is making me think I am right........

YES
YES
I admit I ccasionally wonder ....

Having said that I'm very thankful I didn't have to endure years of dating tossers in order to find my soulmate. We found each other early in life and we've been together for 25 wonderful years - I feel blessed.