ex H just told me he's been with a high class hooker

[chosenonetosurvivethenight]

Wow i'm surprised! We split amicably just over 2 months ago and he hit the dating scene with gusto and encouraged me to do the same! I have literally just started seeing someone and am taking it slow! he came round to see the lil ones and took me to one side to tell me! It was a shock for a minute or two and now i feel ok with it, he explained why he felt the need to 'get it out of his system' as a confidence boost etc, im amazed i don't feel more hurt really!!. We hugged and left it at that- I guess we're definately over, its still sad but clearly the right decision. Im posting this just to get it out of my head I think not sure!

It's so good of him to share, isn't it?

Eeeeewwwwwwwwwww.

what the hell was he telling you for?? High class my ass... some middle aged suburban ho more like it...

I love your name! And I can relate to your post.

I left my XH 7 weeks ago and things have been very reasonable and fair although he didn't want me to go. He swings from telling me he is missing me and crying a lot to stating he is going to find someone else.
I don't feel ready to see anyone for at least a year!

It seems to me you will both be a bit unstable and emotional for a while and you should probably just cut him some slack. He may be doing this out of bravado or telling you because he thinks he will impress you [hhmm]

Either way if it has helped reassure you you have done the right thing leaving him then that is a good thing.

But yes, Eeeeewwwwwwwwww!

I bet he was trying to make you jealous or "realise what you're missing"

I doubt it even happened.

HIgh class as in not on the street? Or Russian millionare standard? Not that it matters, I am just wondering why he felt the need to tell you the level of the sex worker he was using.
He might just be sharing because you've been used to sharing everything - it takes a while to get out of the habit of turning to your ex first. Or he is trying to make you jealous or impress you.

Either way, you seem to be doing well if you've moved on too. Maybe just don't encourage that level of sharing in the future!

" That's nice dear, cup of tea?"

Why on earth would he tell you that?

How strange.

I wonder if it's his first time with a prostitute - have you been tested or are you 100% certain he was faithful when you were together?

I hope you are getting proper maintenance from him while he is shelling out hundreds of pounds on skanks who shag Rooney and the like. Ew.

Well he used to be in the forces and used to be open about who did and who didn't use them! TBH i think its more because we've been very open and honest for so long. The last 6 months of our marriage we were like housemates really, I walked in on him having a w@nk once and we just laughed and 2 mins later when he shouted me i walked in with th tissues!!! I agree this was a bit much and I had to stop him giving more detail!! I am very private about my new man and much less cock sure I think the high class thing was just to make out it was less seedy!! and yes i did say he can take lil ones shoppong for some new stuff now too!! am i being too soft

Isn't that a contradiction in terms? High class + hooker?
Am impressed, however, that you are so calm about it. As you say, it probably proves that you've moved on.

did he tell you the cost? just wondering how much high class is

£140 for an hour of pretty vanilla stuff!

blimey, he really did tell all

I think I would have just said 'you sad fucker, are you here for sympathy?'

Brilliant that he's 'using' a woman, eh? Fantastic. It'll be terrific when he encourages his little ones to buy sex once they're grown up.

Not that it sounds very real. More like the chat was more wank fodder for him.

yeah no such thing as high class and he clearly told you to make an impression. Weirdo.

I find it really difficult to believe that a man would share this with his ex-wife, who he has separated from only 2 months ago, for any other reason than provoking jealousy.

I would have just replied "That's nice dear what an oxymoron and no I don't mean you" then swanned off as his simple little brain tried to figure it out.

Just want to say EnSuiteShed - I love your name!

Why on earth would he tell you this?

Really? What does he gain?

Odd.

Thanks HammerMouseOfHorrors .

Do you by any chance watch 'An Idiot Abroad'? .

Ah, my ex DH decided to tell me when his mates chipped in £200 for him to have a lap dance. I was delighted at that particular piece of news being shared in a soft play centre of all places.

It backfired though, as that night I was so pissed off (not with jealousy, just at the waste of money!) that I registered on a dating site and met my partner, so now I am amused that he spent all the money and I'm getting all the fun as a result of it.

I am wondering though how your ex paid £140 for a shag, whereas mine paid £200 for a lap dance. Mind, he always was crap with money!!