I've met someone, and been seeing them for about 3 mths.... someone I've known just in a friendly sense for about 2 years through work that has recently become more, its been quite intense as we see each other at work everyday. I'm just feeling very unsure about everything - I've fallen hard for him, and he's told me he's in love with me too... however, he told me the other day that he is still affected by something that happened 15 years ago - he was v v hurt by a woman he lived with for 5 years through university (18 - 23). He said he didn't look at another woman in all that time, but when she finished her degree she got a job in London, moved there and decided that anyone who wasn't part of her great new London life was out - including him. She just cut him out of her life, just like that. He says he's never got over being hurt like that, and decided that he would never put all his eggs in one basket again so to speak, and is probably one of the most untrusting people ever. To me I can understand what he's saying, but we've all been hurt in the past - I was in a similar situation myself at a similar age - is this telling me he can't be trusted himself because he's scared of being hurt so much? He said he would give anything to be able to meet and trust someone. We get on so well, I think he's amazing, and he's told me he thinks the same and that I'm fantastic. Please be gentle with me - I do have some suspicions but am interested in others' opinions....