OH FFS, Just found date for next week on a sex site.

[littlenervous]

POsted about the first phone call and had slight doubts because he mentioned staying over in a hotel.

Just something hasnt sat right with me for a few days.

Googled his username from the site i met him and its come up with him being registered on 'be naughty.com' in a totally different area to what hes on the other site as.

FFS - what is it with these losers.

Goes without saying i shall now not be going on the date.

Do i send him an email and tell him? or just ignore him?

Forget the tinternet, chances are, if you forget about meeting men, you meet a lovely bloke on a Tuesday night when at the petrol station in curlers and paint stained clothes. I did.

I know it's a cliche but you really do meet people when you are not trying to. That only holds if you truly are not trying though

Anyway, what's not to love about being single? I thoroughly enjoyed my long single years.

Happened to me funnily enough sf, but there are also plenty of men just looking for nsa fun too.

Don't worry. He's not a sleazoid.

Benaughty is owned by the same bunch as girlsdateforfree, cupid.com, datetheuk etc.

They're well known for taking their profiles off normal sites without permission and putting them on benaughty and sexintheuk.

And their grasp on geography is pretty weird. When I was on there I was living in five different towns according to them.

Most people don't know it's happened to them. I'd guess almost everyone doesn't know.

hmmm.

i supose. but that aside i still think he might be married.

have already decided no.

A mate of mine did meet her now-DH via the Guardian Soulmates website. So it does happen.
But if someone you have made initial contact with eg messaging, phone calls etc then starts sounding like a bad option, just dump and move on; no need to stress about it.

It is possible that he is registered on another site but doesn't really mean to get involved in it. Some men like to test the water and see if they get any winks etc and it's all an ego boost and no more.

I think what is more worrying is the fact that he appears to be lying about who he lives with and they dog etc.

The hotel thing could of course be a cover, so that he tells his wife he is away with work.....especially if it is mid week.

Do you have a landline no. for him? if so, I'd be tempted to call at a really inconvenient time- like dinner time, or kids bath times.

If i were you Iwould dismiss the other dating site as a "man's ego thing" but try to find out what his true situation was.

I dont have a landline number. I dont know his last name. I dont even have an email address.

But in any case it doesnt matter as im not going and neither am i going to have further correspondence from him.

Not that I'm an expert on internet dating but I wouldn't be arranging a date with someone where I didn't know their last name, phone number or even an email address. If he isn't willing to give basic contact information then he clearly has something to hide.

OP you haven't invested anything in this, just walk away. You have no reason to be fair to this man, find someone else.

Coming to this pretty late but I agree that if you are having misgivings before the first date then you've made the right decision.

Of course it's disappointing but there's no need to over analyse, just chalk it up to experience and move on.

It might be a different person I never seem to be able to get 'Tiggy' when I join somewhere, but...

discrete is a word on dating sites that means married.

well, i made the right choice.

He kept texting me, so i did reply that i had changed my mind and didnt want to meet up.

Then he came back saying why? and that he had taken time off just to meet me.

I text back that no, he had told me he had the whole of this week off anyway before we arranged our date.

And basically it went on like that. He wouldnt take no for an answer. Kept saying 'but i was looking forward to it, now im gutted.

talk about guilt when you havent met someone, what on earth would it be like if i had met him.

Nutcase.

Lucky escape! Can't believe the harsh responses you have had on here!
I thought he sounded a bit dodgy in your other thread.
My bf met her man on pof and he is lovely but she had to meet a LOT of twats before she found him. I was on there for a day but got freaked out by the pervs and ran a mile!

Sound like he is already displaying potential stalker behaviour-avoid!

IMO after seeing friends use Internet dating I have concluded there is a better success rate with sites you need to pay for.

lucky escape, your instincts were spot-on

trust them more in future and if it looks like a nutter, sounds like a nutter, it probably is a nutter

What was his job Little ?

something to do with hydrolics. He wouldnt tell me what.

Anyway, ive not heard from him since, and he if he does text me again i shall ignore it.

Ive also taken down my profile and have decided to not date for a good while.

good luck, ln x

hmm, i would also be annoyed with all the weirdy excuses.

Once, a guy came running up to me with his phone number, and i was really flattered, he works locally. We shared a few texts, and i asked if he did seem to like me, and stuff why when i suggested meeting up for a beer he seemed to change the subject. Like you it didnt sit wel, and one time i said, look why don't i give you ring now. He was adamant no he was off to bed, etc...

then it clicked, he was in a relationship.

Online dating, a minefield, and you do want to be open minded and trust people and not assume. You want before you put effort into going on a date, to know (as much as you can) that the person is at least honest in their intentions and in what they are looking for.

The finding him on a casual sex website would be a surprise to me, but as others have sais, why not, he wants sex and maybe is hoping to find a lt partner thru either type of site. Yet all the other stuff would make me question him, as it has done you.

I have been on the date sites for longer than you, and i stay on them cos you just never know what might crop up.

Can you block his texts?

oh, btw what is his username, i am on pof be cool to have a gander.

how about all of us on PoF view him, he would be amazed at women all over the country viewing his profile . C'mon littlenervous, tell us his username.

yes, i was thinking that, he'll get so many 'hits'.

shades of shiney's penguin boy eh?

Hang on is that be naughty on facebook? Cos i keep getting things pop up to join, and although I say no, it might be that he's not been paying attention and clicked on the wrong button?

It seems very similar to the fortune cookies they send out so it's slightly possible hes joined without realising it.

However, sounds like you are well rid!