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OH FFS, Just found date for next week on a sex site.

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 10:07

POsted about the first phone call and had slight doubts because he mentioned staying over in a hotel.

Just something hasnt sat right with me for a few days.

Googled his username from the site i met him and its come up with him being registered on 'be naughty.com' in a totally different area to what hes on the other site as.

FFS - what is it with these losers.

Goes without saying i shall now not be going on the date.

Do i send him an email and tell him? or just ignore him?

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perfumedlife · 23/10/2010 11:48

I thought the hotel thing was innocent, considerate even.

Now i think he is married. The lack of calls in the evening, not online in the evening.

I would run a mile op.

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 11:49

like - hes just text me saying he wont be around to respond to texts today because he is going somewhere to pick something up.

Last weekend he text me to say he wasnt going to be about to reply as he was going away, and then on the sunday he was going to pick something else up.

I just think its really odd.

Especially the two locations thing as well.

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perfumedlife · 23/10/2010 11:50

Married.

perfumedlife · 23/10/2010 11:51

And quite possibly married to one of us.

ThePumpkinofDoomandTotalChaos · 23/10/2010 11:53

you owe this guy nothing, if you wanted not to date him because of his star sign, then fine. the sex site stuff on it's own doesn't sound that awful - but the rest of it - the weirdly limited availability in particular rings massive alarm bells. agree with Scary Fucker - bin him off, then find something/someone better to focus your attentions on.

CheerfulV · 23/10/2010 11:54

So let it go. Tell him you're not interested, politely, and move on. There are nice blokes out there who won't make your alarm bells rings. I didn't like the sound of him, tbh, from your other thread. And I think your instincts are good here; don't ignore them.

dignified · 23/10/2010 11:54

I think hes definateley married , and no , i wouldnt meet him under any circumstances .

MollieO · 23/10/2010 11:55

Definitely married or else has a job as a weekend courier. [hgrin]

ScaryFucker · 23/10/2010 12:09

why are you still texting him ?

why are now saying "should I change my mind and see him anyway" when you were adamant you wouldn't ?

do you like the drama ?

seriously, delete his number, get on with your life, and stop discussing him on the interweb

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 12:10

Id be really surprised if he wasnt married. But im not going to stick around to find out.

Have actually de registered off dating site as its just a string of disapointment.

He has my number, but should i just ignore him? Or just text something like ' really sorry, changed my mind. thanks anyway'

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 12:12

scarey -im not texting him. He just text me.

im asking because i got such a reaction further up the thread that its making me think im being melodramatic and unreasonable.

I dont think i am though. I still think hes married. Im just surprised people thought i was being out of order.

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SolidButShamblingUndeadBrass · 23/10/2010 12:14

I'd suggest ignoring him, if he does text again then say, sorry, changed my mind, all the best, bye. It doesn;t really matter what or who he is, if you don;t want to date him then don't.
Mind you I would also refuse to date someone who was so ignorant of the conventions of internet dating that he wanted to come to my house straight away. That's either utterly desperate or dodgy.

BarnacleBill · 23/10/2010 12:26

"ok - so being honest.

Do you think im being melodramatic and should just go get drunk with him."

No, I think you are being melodramatic and should definitely NOT go out with him.

You're not going to meet him, totally agree he sounds fishy; I wouldn't meet him either, so why all the hand-wringing? Why still contamplating the date?

Its gone, done... Onto the next one!

BarnacleBill · 23/10/2010 12:28

What SGB said
Ignore him then if he texts again reply that you've changed your mind.

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 12:35

im not contemplating the date. Ive already decided not to go.

I was just wondering if anyone else would go given everything, because several posters further up the thread implied it was me and that it was fine.

Am just going to ignore and like you have said. When he next texts i shall just say i have changed my mind.

Im just pissed off that everyman i come across seems to be a liar or married or something. Internet dating is doing nothing to restore my faith in men at all. In fact its making it worse. Hence i have de registered.

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 23/10/2010 12:42

No-one ever suggested that you were being out of order - you are getting your knickers in a knot over nothing here.

You think he is married, your instincts are telling you to avoid.

So avoid - simple.

ScaryFucker · 23/10/2010 12:45

look love, I think the posters you have taken issue with were saying the same thing as the last few were

too much drama, too much trying to analyse a complete stranger

you don't like the idea of meeting him, so don't

this thread has no business being this long, tbh

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 12:54

i understand what you are saying.
But, originally you take someone at face vaulue, and everything is fine.
Say you have been emailing for about a month.
Then certain things dont add up.

Thats not really anaylsying is it. thats just your brain saying ' no, this isnt right'

My brain was saying ' something is up' so loudly that i googled his username.

and then found the sex site. Its not really analyings his intentions. I dont give a shit what they are. im not meeting him.

This thread was just an exhasberated FFS men are dicks thread.

Until some posters made me feel i was being silly.

and anyway - who are you? the thread lenght police Wink

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ScaryFucker · 23/10/2010 13:01

of course I am...and you are nicked [hgrin]

you are not being silly about dumping the liar, but you are being silly to angst about it so much

that is all I am saying

ScaryFucker · 23/10/2010 13:03

and not just me, the rest of the contributors to this (overly-long [hwink]) thread are too

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littlenervous · 23/10/2010 13:05

lol.

i didnt have any angst though, until some people made me feel like i was being silly.

I am literally just fed up with muppets. Ive been internet dating for 2 years. Not once in those two years have i come across one person who a) i liked 2) wasnt a total loser or future cock lodger 3) could actually spell and hold a conversation 4) was not lying.

Its just so very disapointing.
Thats all.

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ScaryFucker · 23/10/2010 13:08

aww

time to give up the internet dating ?

you can't be that desperate for a man surely that after 2 years of this shit, you would want to keep going back for more ?

be on your own for a while without actively looking...is that so awful to contemplate ?

dittany · 23/10/2010 13:08

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lou33 · 23/10/2010 13:09

I definitely wouldn't go.

ScaryFucker · 23/10/2010 13:10

err, yep, that about sums it up dittany

although you might now get a barrage of women who come on to say they found the "love of their life" on line

it happens I suppose...rarely, I reckon