does anyone elses partner have the need to stay at his mates every weekend to get drunk??

[Lozza83]

Hi,

Reason i'm asking this is because on one hand i think i am over reacting and on the other i feel like he should want to be with me. He stays out almost every weekend and hardly even bothers to call to let me know he is thinking about me. He usually turns off his phone claiming to have run out of battery or not have reception. We have been together roughly 4 months and he stays here most of the time during the week but he doesn't live with me. He says that he does love me but i can't help be worried - he could quite easily be seeing someone else at at the same time even though he says that he isn't. He just says that he likes his lads time to play computer and get drunk. He is 28 by the way....

thanks in advance xx

lozza, you didn't make anyone angry love

don't apologise to us

the only time I get angry is when I think of how these horrible men use our insecurities to stroke their egos

you are worth more than that, and I hope you realise it x

Agree no-one got angry. At the same time there is no point getting angry with him if he chooses to spend his weekends with other people.
If you want a bloke who enjoys spending some of his weekends with you then you want a different bloke. It sounds as though you are trying to change this bloke into someone he isn't.
I wouldn't stay in a relationship with a bloke who didn't find spending time with me on a weekend enjoyable.

Lozza, I would not be at all surprised to find another thread with an OP lamenting the fact that her partner only stays with her at weekends and turns his phone off during the week.

I do not think he is 'playing the field'. I think he has another girlfriend who he lives with at the weekends, perhaps telling her he 'works away' during the week.

I would wish you luck getting rid of him, but that would imply that you had him in the first place. You don't.

It is his presence which is making you miserable, not his absence.