Space Invaders ..... You know the sort of person who crashes into a discussion like a bull elephant....

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How does it make you feel when you're having a discussion with people you have something in common with, about something you have in common, like giving birth or birth trauma or breastfeeding, or being a mother or daughter or wife or sister, perhaps even being an abused wife or daughter or sister, and someone who does not share the experience, a man with strident opinions, shall we say, and maybe a friend or two he has invited along, plonks himself down among you and pontificates and scolds, and finally the discussion ends up revolving around accusations of man-hating, with advice and commiseration being wilfully misinterpreted as expressions of misandry?

Apologies, very long sentence there. But no apology for the contents.

We know that because I read it and saved to my Interesting-But-Soon-To-Deleted Threads file, which is next to my Troll file .

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because blokes will "explode" if they don't get relief...especially a member as big as his him

I've pasted it again....the other thread disappeared....

We've banned this user.
Best,
Catherine
MNHQ

Talk user pinemartina ( my email ) has reported the post at www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1061725-Can-anyone-link-me-to-emotional-abuse-site/AllOnOnePage#21749854

using the "report this post" facility on Talk.
The thread title is Can anyone link me to emotional abuse site?

The original post reads
By Footlong on Thu 14-Oct-10 01:58:17

Footlong, it must be so tiring being the one-man Male Human Defence Squad. Why not try to helpfully respond to the OP (who replied to your question) instead of slagging off resources that help people?

No not tiring at all. And I am not afraid to counter the man hating nonsnse that gets posted on here by some bitter individuals with a sad past. I have repsonded to her response, but who made you the thread police I am not quite sure.

The user's comment reads
Insensitive,unhelpful and rude in the context of what is being discussed and what has been advised.Also not relevant to the thread. And could be construed as bullying and aggression towards posters who are regularly discussing their own experiences on the other threads in this topic,many of whom are posting on this thread - and lurking.

Catherine
www.mumsnet.com

pm, you are an angel x

at it being his response to my angry post that was highlighted. I just felt it was so rude of him to ignore her answer to his question, and divert his attentions onto slagging off posters as man-haters instead :(

EandM - it was that response that I reported.I clicked on "Report" as soon as I read his nasty words,before going any further on with the thread.

It made me see furious,reading " man-hating..bitter individuals with a sad past".

Bullying and inappropriate any where,never mind on a Relationships forum and DV thread.

If I recognise his voice anywhere under a different name ,I will report him again.

x SF !

PineMartina, you were so much more polite than I was. WELL DONE!!!!!!

EvilAntsAndMiasmas, that was his MO on every single thread he joined. Made me furious too, as I'm sure MNHQ gathered from my pithy reports (sorry; hope your eyeballs will recover from the blisters, folks..)

I will also keep a lookout for him and others of his ilk.

Hmmm....on the thread that was pulled however, there was a poster called "MassiveKnob" who claimed never to have heard of Footlong. These trolls/sockpuppets like to think that they can get round the Mumsnet troll radar, but I hope you're on to it MNHQ.

Do you know what, I bloody love MN. Had no idea that they would/could ban someone "just" for being a rude, insensitive knobend. It's like a great big pub with all-female bouncers (that's us) and uber-super bouncers (MNHQ) to make sure that everyone has a nice time.

Yeah I'd tangled with him before too.

I keep resolving to ignore larry as well, especially after his unbelievable abortion/rape comparison, but he presses all my furious-ride-into-battle buttons.

WWIFN - At least "MassiveKnob" was honest about his personality from the start :o

Yes but just to counter it a bit, we've also got some brilliant male posters who have also taken FL on and challenged him. I wouldn't want an all-female MN, just a Mumsnet with people who have a desire to help eachother and to debate and disagree without being offensive.

God no me neither, there are some lovely men on here. I was just getting carried away with the idea of a ring of burly well-padded female security guards encircling MN (esp Relationships board) to keep out Trouble. :o

Count me in on that gang!

it's just twats I am opposed to, not men in general

Who? Who he?

Please tell me. I want to froth and gibber with indignation!

oh hang on SF - you're saying you're not a man hater? :o

I love men, oi do

Orm - was Inchlong Footlong.

FuckWang

Mind you, even Inchlong was horrified by one poster's abusive H. Which shocked the rest of the thread and hopefully made an impact on the OP, too.

sgb, one half-decent post does not a decent bloke make

and that thread was pretty extreme !

True. But I do have this habit of looking for at least one thing the most tiresome people have done to justify their existence, and it did occur to me that people saying 'Look, even the No 1 entitled male privileged sexist pig on here thinks your H is vile and totally the one in the wrong' might have had some beneficial impact on the OP of that thread.

I think that too, sgb

on that thread, it was true

what about the other 99 cockhead posts though....hard to explain those away

OK. You aren't going to believe this. When I posted my much less discreet thread earlier, I had not read this one. You made it soooo freaking discreet I didn't get what it was referring to cos I'm thick that way Only caught up to it just now, but quite spooked out that we all reached the end of our respective tethers within hours of each other.

Also, I created the convo, then left to do the dishes, came back and it was gone. I actually have no idea what happened on it. Anyone care to fill me in? Did I miss an excellent hissy fit?

Have pm'ed you.