wierd?

[DaisyDaresYOU]

Does any one find it weird why an ex would keep thoer exs last name of they hated them with a passion?i'm just curious.Kid's are grown up btw

And yes she hated it when i got together with dp.Abusive texts phone calls.She was with a new bloke at the time.

Yes, I can see this is not about names at all.

If you are now no longer enamoured with him and she hates his guts WHY on earth do you care?

Thank your lucky stars you are not married to him, at least you don't have to find money to divorce him.

Get out, stay out and go find your own life.

I can't leave.He said id have to move out.es not going es on tenacy blah blah.I need this house for kids.I dont have any family here.He says e loves me,so why is he so selfish and mean.What i mean with the last name,i think theres more to it than dps telling me.Maybe they were on good terms.

I would dearly love to return to my maiden name but stick with my married name because the paperwork in changing mine back - which would then be different to DD's- is just a pain in the arse. And then me and DD would have different surnames and that complicates eveything with school etc. Ex - husband is dead but I feel that DD needs to have some connection to his family.

however, if the kids are grown up - I dunno - but it could be as simple as having to change passport, driving licence and every thing else - maybe she's just lazy like me???!!!

Are you for real?

Im so mixed up at mo.love hate jelousy.He tells me i need to lose wait etc.If e came on here he would be so convincing on how much he loves me

He's a twat. Get rid

Yes i am for real

I wish i could.Iv'e stuck myself with him.If there was an easy way out,I'd be gone.I feel an idiot taking him back.

Never mind who's got what surname, you're living with a controlling bully by the sound of it. He can say he loves you all he likes but it's only words when the actions don't match, isn't it?

Have you been to the CAB to get some advice? You can ring Women's Aid or Refuge, as well, and make an appointment with the DV person at the police. In fact, phone them all. You'll feel a hell of a lot better when you've got your own information, instead of believing whatever he decides to tell you.

Es sis said how much he loves me etc,es mates even tell me that he talks about me alot.Thats what i mean he's so good at convincing people.How do i get him to leave.

If there was an easy way out,I'd be gone.

There is, it's called a DOOR.

From now on, your entire life needs to focus on one thing and one thing only and that is getting yourself out of this realtionship.

If you are not working, and are able to do so, get a job. He's wound you up to a fever pitch and you don't know what way is up.

Get some money saved up, for a deposit and get your documents, and passports etc etc together and keep it at a friend's house.

Document all incidences of when he verbally abuses you, keep a diary.

Call Women's Aid and they will help get you out and to a place of safety, until you can get somewhere more permanent.

You are not stuck, you are not locked into a life of permanent misery, and mind altering insults, you are a mum of 2 DC, and for their sake, you need to get them out of there as soon as possible.... Or do you WANT them to turn out exactly like them?????

So come on DaisyDaresYOU.... I DARE you!

I don't think it's abuse.I just think his very self self self.If hes not happy with somethin es stressy with me,I don't like him calling me fat though.Im size8 yes i have a belly,im a mummy ffs,i said whats hes exuse.Im extremely tired upset and pissed off.Pmt has alot to answer for.I just need a good old moan

Swearing at you is abuse, the way you are talking about yourself is so defeated. Guess how that happened?

If you were to tell him to shut TF up, what would happen?

GET OUT. If your DC are grown and working, FGS, get them to help you all get out of there.

No excuses Daisy, why are you selling yourself so short?

Everythin making me angry.he hates me being on fb incase i cheat.Id never cheat btw,never have.He knows it,but says it to whind me up.

He can be loving,more so when he is a bit drunk.Its ha so yeah need his signiture.It was hard to get him out the last time.Thats when he came ome at 3in the morn in a week day again.

There is always another way Daisy, just change your DD's name to your name

But to answer your op - My Mum did this and I just understand why. She has divorced my Stepdad (who abused me btw) but she has kept his name - my mind is well and truly boggled

I don't mean to be mean but is is spelt is, not es. It makes your posts hard to read.

Just because you have been with someone years it doesn't mean you have to stay, you have wasted x amount of years, why add to them if you are not happy?

What he appears to other people is irrelevant.

Its very hard to shake these men off.