Just pondering this one and would be really interested to know opinions please?
Without going into too much detail (for obvious reasons..), a relative of mine (male) is engaged to a lovely girl, and they already have a child together. He has always had a rep as a bit of a tart, but somehow he seems to have managed to keep his murky past away from his F. However, we have some mutual friends and we heard through them (and he later admitted it to us) that he cheated on his F when she had just given birth to their child. At the time he said it was a drunken mistake and it would never happen again. As he was out with a large group of friends at the time, it seemed that everyone knew about it apart from his F, who never found out.
Recently we have heard rumours that it has happened again since. My DP says we should stay out of it, but as a woman I can't help feeling bad that I'm standing back and letting her marry someone who she surely wouldn't, if she knew what was going on.
However, I don't feel I have the right to steam in and tell her, especially now, as we are not close friends, but just know each other through (fairly distant) family ties. If she were my sister or personal close friend, I don't think I would have to think twice about telling her.
So - do you think, as a woman, that you should never allow men to get away with cheating on somebody and always tell, or keep out of it unless the woman is a close friend/relative of yours?