The 'im fed up of being single' but online dating is crap thread

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Online dating is crap. Today i have deleted my profile off all sites i was registered on.
After online dating for 18 months i am still without anyone even vaguley interesting.

Instead im going to just see what happens. I do not happen to meet many men in my day to day life ( read, i dont meet any)

But im attempting to going back to basics, trying to go to the pub for a drink, or talking to people in the park.

Anyone want to join me and a real life attempt to meet men? ( or knows where any nice ones are hiding?)

How about taking sports activities as a social entree? Karate classes is a good one? Maybe tennis?

Online dating is a false alternative to what used to be chance encounters online - forums chat rooms etc ... which then might result in RL relationships after meeting a like minded spirit ( i am with current GF becuase of such an encounter for 10 years now )
Anything else is the same as what used to be news paper adverts ........
SO NEVER ABANDON RL AS ITS THE ONLY THING THATS REAL EVEN WHEN YO MEET SOME ONE ONLINE ... if that makes sense

I'm in this too.

In past 18 months I've been on over 40 dates.

I am not needy, clingy, or desperate people tell me I am fun, attractive blah blah.

Out of the 40 I've liked five. One went off with his old girlfriend, one told me he was in love with his bf and couldn't take things further.
One told me he wasn't ready for a relationship, one stopped calling me and suddenly got all casual, one met a girl at work while dating me.

You cannot help but think: What is wrong with me?

It seems to work for everyone else, but not me. I am such an optimist normally but this has been a very depressing, frustrating time.

singlegirl i'm the same as you!!....

am just feeding back my experiences : )

have been internet dating quite a lot the past 6 months or so, mainly because all my old going out buddies ended up hitched up so difficult to go out and meet anyone.

Usually they end up being quite boring. A few have been a bit sex-mad - it's not unusual to get messages asking what i'm looking for or else just plain straight to the point. One hated rejection and sent me a series of angry texts.

Went out on Monday night this week with a guy who seemed a bit sex mad, was tired after work and thought can't be bothered...sent him a text saying I wasn't looking for a sex date so he backtracked. Bought me 5 glasses of wine though but let me go home with a snog. Wants another date. Nice but just not quite attractive enough.

Another one I had to cancel a first date on last night as I forgot I had to work late - had 2 texts at 2.30am this morning saying that he didn't know where I was coming from....methinks a little too high maintenance for someone I haven't even met yet!! pffffttt

The best thing to do I think is have a drink or two - I've had a few where we've met for a coffee in the late morning. BIG mistake. They seem far more boring without alcohol. I had to sneak into the toilets to ask my friend to call me to get away from one (clearly am too nice to just run off, although I wish I had - couldn't stop talking about himself, and he wasn't that interesting a topic).

littlestmummystop 40 dates in 18 months - OMG, I'm so glad I decided to stop with the internet dating sites. I don't have time!!!!!

peeweewee good advice about not meeting someone in the morning

So does anyone have advice about pursuing someone at work when I'm his boss - he's a contractor so it's not as bad as it sounds.. my idea is that I could pass on all the management type stuff to a colleague (could easily do this)so I'd not be his boss any more. Or am I just kidding myself and it's just wrong???????

I admit it's a crush, but it's the first time I've felt like this about someone since I split with my ex 8 months ago. Should I just enjoy it as a crush (he doesn't know how I feel)??

Why would you pursue him? Just chat and get on with him and be social and friendly and open to a little flirting to test the waters...then let him pursue I say

Hmm, good point...!! I sense he's a bit shy so I thought I might have to be the one to drop the first hint. Like the flirting idea though.

Enjoy it as a crush.

If you wanted to take him further then look him in the eye and hold that look just a little longer than is normal...he should sense something

TDaDa I did - and he held the gaze right back (sigh). I only see him once a week and keep trying to come up with reasons to try and get him to come into the office more than that!! Pathetic...

Did you put any emotion into your gaze...like did you melt?

As much as I could in a room full of the whole team - you know when your eyes go round the table and everyone's looking out the window / at the table / at their laptop / then reached him and he was looking right at me.. I kept looking back, melting completely.... oh it was lovely.. (and yes, I feel like I'm 16 again!!!)

Enjoy!! If you smile nicely whenever you see him, he should work it out....do you flick you hair?

!!!! oh god, I really am 16 again... flick hair.. lick lips... play with earring... snog his face off (is that too far???)

Book weekly one to ones with him...to develop his strengths and weakness

Oooooh I like it Thanks!!

Good luck green! I've had enough too! I have met loads of nice people but just not right for me and IM getting tired of waking up ith a hangover after 2 glassses of wine [confused}. Maybe im just an ugly old minger [hmmm]

And I've not even gotten a snog yet

40 dates in 18 months!!!! OMG.

You must be more disheartned than me. It does get a little depressing though doesnt it, all the effort going on a huge amount of dates and they all turn out to be crap, and then the one you do like, doesnt call.

and to anyone that says ' yes but its the same in rl' its kind of not, usually if you are going on a date in rl you would have met before. So littestmummy has met 40 new people. Thats 40 outfits, 40 getting a bit nervous and 40 being all nice anc chatty and attentive only to get her nowhere.

Littlestmummy - i kind of think it must be me now too. Ive had lots of dates, thought not quite 40 and am told the same things you are.

www.nexus-uk.co.uk/

My mum used this club and as well as finding a nice new partner her social life has gone from strength to strength. Probably one for the over 40s though.

I'm going speeddating tonight! Just signed up on a total whhim. Will report back.

Good luck nexus let us know how you got on
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Sorry I meant let us know beautiful how you got on oops

It was good fun! It's such a laugh. I went all glammed-up, in a black dress and boots. Met one nice bloke who made me laugh, and took my phone number and gave me his business card. I'm not going to ring him, but he did say, "If I asked you out, would you like to go?" and I said I'd love to. He's 3 years older than me, 2 kids. He also asked if I'd like to meet for lunch tomorrow but I'm busy.

There was an amazing older guy there who's a boxer. From the East End, really salt-of-the-earth type. I ticked him for a date, I dunno why!

There were a few other nice ones but I only ticked 3 for dates. It was great fun.

Gosh beautiful; how exciting for you. You will have great fun. You are right to play it a little cool. Will be interesting to see how Mr Business and Mr Hard Knocks get on.

Woop woop nice one beautiful!! Keep us informed about the progress