sent a text to not so DH saying its over

[tesrocks]

he is on stage do. Looked at internet history as I don't really trust him over previous lies and sexual incident with so called friend. Hints of an affair, strip bar searches and lots of porn.

He is being droped off soon by his mum told hin his bags will be on the porch. OK I'm 38 years, two DS and will starting again. We've been together for 18 years.

Bugger, bugger why are such men such complete and utter shits who think only with their dicks?

No one at this hour on this day I feel I can call - just got first glass of wine come and tell me it will be OK and stay strong.

X posted with you. Yes if she is a good friend you can trust. I would tell her.

Ignore your H's texts. He's in denial, I'd suggest turning your phone off for some space tonight. It can't help having texts from him constantly.

She's back from honeymoon, that counts as back in RL. It's not as if you're bursting her bubble in Tobago, ring her!

Thanks for support I am fine just with mumsnet am my unlaod to a lovely mum on school run tonmorrow - she loves a good gossip (crazy face if there was one would go here!! maybe MN can look into it!) Just realised I bit my finger so hard its bleeding, bloody hell will go and find plaster, please don't go away I do really need you.

My soon to be ex H is good with the DCs and spends lots of time with them despite divorce (always on my terms). There's no reason that your H cannot still be a good father despite separation btw. Tippy and I are both separated and we're both doing fine You will too, it's just a very bumpy ride to begin with.

How's your finger?

I think Tippy is separated from memory on other threads

No, how very dare you , I am just back from my blissful honeymoon.
Only kidding. Yes, I am newly-ish single for the second time from the same nobber. I survived last time and will do so again . You too OP will be grand.

LOL

Have just spoke to BFriend who will come round tomorrow she has had some wine or would be here tonight.

HH (hideous hubby) has just phoned and agreed not to try and come into house tonight. Have already got name of good divorce person and will phone them in morning (again) and tell them to start whatever they need to start.

Really, really going to do it this time. Thank you for support. My boys and our families will be completely heart broken hopefully I will be numb.

Take it all one step at a time and be kind to yourself. My DCs lived on baked beans, fish fingers etc in the early days and I lived on toast and coffee

Divorce can take a long long time, however the sooner he can agree on giving you the space you need the better.

Glad you told your friend It's good to at least have one or two close friends around you. Although it is painful having to admit it in real life.

teaandcakeplease thank you for being so lovely. I'm a grown woman and feel like a cmplete child tonight. Already looking forward to SIL's wedding and realising I can't be there. He is making me see red...I am not violent - at all - but want ot knowch his mights out for ruining such a lovely family and we were. Bugger again I'm getting upset - have moved onto fruit tea as I have no idea of where school uniform or PE kit is

Cheers me dears x

just lurking and want to add my support to you x

it sounds like you have given him chances before

don't give him any more x

Thank you all. I am going to bed , v early I know. AF you have been a constant in my MN crisis' thank you.

No more chances.

T and C and co. cheers for advice.

Bugger, bugger and bloody bugger I am cross.

Sleep well one and all x

Kick the couch and punch a cushion or two. It may help. All these feelings are perfectly normal. Keep riding the storm and get help where you can for now with DCs.

Night night

gosh, have I, tes ?

under a different name ?

if I knew you under a different name, my reply may not have been so short, but, anyway, good night and best wishes to you x

come back tomorrow and check in

I hope you manage to sleep okay.

Everyone else can be upset if they want to. Better that than you waste the rest of your life. People dont end their marriage by text message on a whim so I'm sure ther has been a long and probably very painful build up to today.

Look after yourself and stay strong. You can do it, I didnt think I could but I am and will continue to do so.

Hello

Both boys to school Ok. Only missing their blazers but have outdoor coats. He is coming round later to talk. I almost believe that he isn't having an affair but the porn and strip clubs are too much. He went to strip club with mates last year didn't say why but of course its because he wants to look at naked women cavorting for him.

He is v sorry and doing the usual stuff. I have written a book about how much he has hurt me over the years - will go and get it and stay strong.

Just got text saying that I am wrong and he does respect women!!!!!!!!!! and me!!!! He really thinks he can talk me round again. I bloody hate the internet, men, strip clubs, former friend who got off with DH, baked beans and dirty floors.

Stop texting with him now, it will do your head in.

YOU want it to be over. YOU cannot stand it anylonger. So, that is what counts when you see him later. It does not matter that he thinks it is not over. It is over if you say so. Be strong, I wish you luck.

I gave him the list he just told me he deleted it.

remembered one site and logged on - live sex shows of every variety and you get to chat with the girls on-line any doubts I had are completely gone.

What a complete and utter wanker.

if you want it to be over, it is over

he doesn't get a say

If poss have your friend in the house for strength.

He is a knob to think he can talk you round again.

We are here for you stay strong for yourself respect and the future of your sons.

You don't want them endind up treating women including you like he does now do you.

Hope you are holding up ok tesrocks. FWIW, I think the blow job six months ago was the final ending for this relationship. Regardless of live web shows and strip clubs, that showed he was willing to take his fantasies into real life.

I know it WILL get easier for you. Please get some friends or family near you x

Just sent me a message saying I should stop looking at these sites in case I get a virus!!!!!!!!!!!

WTF he is the one who opened them in the first place on MY work laptop.

Can't tell family yet - mum will be destroyed, she was left alone at 39 - my dad died - he was 43 years. My mum is still alone, meant to be moving in with us next year.

Oh god tes, are you the blowjob in the street lady? With a namechange? Oh poor you, what an utter twat. Again.