Wondering Eye Syndrome

[Chinghehuang]

My DH always looks at other women whenever we go out together, I make a point of not going out with him for this reason as it is humiliating, he says I am being stupid and he is not looking at other women. What bugs me is that he does'nt look at older women just attractive younger ones, even when he is driving his eyes are wondering when he sees attractive females. I know this is a common problem for many couples as I often see men looking at my DD becasue she is attractive. I could'nt care less if he does it without me around but to keep making it obvious when we are out together anywhere is making my life miserable, I try to blot it out and not let it eat away at me. I just have low self esteem as a result. Who else has this problem?

Next time he does it at dinner, ask for a jug of cold water and empty it on his head and walk off.....I notice deh laydeez but notice them less when DW is with me ..naturally.....

In any case, sitting there with your tongue hanging out is not subtle nor attractive!

How do you feel about him referring to these women as ugly and lesbians , and his general demeaning attitude to women ?

AnyFucker sums it up for me. . For starters I'd just say "stop staring, it makes you look like a twat and don't deny it because I'm sick of hearing that". But your obsession with recalling actual incidents has made you seen a little odd to me too.

boho, the rather salacious details of the incidents did it for me

We are up early AF......do you MN from your iPhone/iPad whilst DH brings you cuppa in bed ?

making pack lunches and glancing at MN are now my morning rituals.

iPhone ?

iPad ?

what are they ?

I have half an hour on MN (on laptop) before the rest of the household get up, then we all go off to school/work

I usually use it wisely by posting comments all over the place, then hiding at work (no PC time allowed...sackable offence ) while everyone splutters and defends their late night musings

will let Mr AF know that an iPad will be a welcome b'day present then......I shalln't tell him that it is a slippery slope and that soon you will be expecting a routine cuppa in bed an hour before the kids wake up...have a good day

off I go

laters...

Chinghehuang- sorry about the hijack.

I get this a lot.

I am fed up with being treated as 'eye candy'. I have a mind too, you know.

hate to be pedantic( actually I don't) but shouldn't it be 'wandering', rather than 'wondering eye' - I had images of an eye staring out to a mid-point in space.

Pan yes I realised it should be Wandering, stupid me.
BohoHobo, sorry did'nt mean to come across as odd, just wanted to give some examples of my experiences in case anyone could relate to them.
dignified, bizarre to say the least calling the woman ugly & lesbians, maybe it was because they were ignoring him, never heard him say these things before, perhaps he thought I was his mate & not his wife when expressing his views.

thanks for all of your contributions I won't be posting anymore on this as I really did'nt want to come across as odd in anyway.

decided to have the thread deleted, just want to say a big thankyou though to all those who have offered me ideas to overcome this.

Chinghehuang- hope you are feeling too hurt by this.