They have just been to stay for five nights and I couldn't wait for them to leave.
I have felt embarrassed by them for years to the extent that they have only met my MIL twice for the twenty years that I have been married. However, they show no interest in her or DH's family, never ask after them, have not even bothered sending Christmas/Birthday cards unless prompted. If they call me, they never ask after DH and never ask to speak to him.
I always go out of my way to avoid meeting anyone I know when they are with me as they are useless with other people and my mum has hardly any social skills.
Other things are:-
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Appalling table manners. They never wait until everyone is sitting down before they start eating. I am frequently still dishing up while they sit down and immediately start eating. At lunchtime today, my mum had finished her meal before I had even sat down. She hunches over her food with her elbows on the table. She shovels far too much in her mouth and talks with her mouth full. Sometimes I can't even understand what she's saying.
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They drink loads. They both fill their glasses right to the top and often fill their own glass/finish a bottle before offering any to anyone else. They get drunk and talk nonsense-my mum will slur and my dad will get argumentative.
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They are greedy with food. If I take chocolates to their house my mum will open them straight away and not offer any to anyone. I hate eating out with them-a lunchtime example was my dad had two beers, starter, main course and cheese course with red wine. My mum had two courses, three large glasses of wine and a liquer coffee. DH and I had a main and one glass of wine. This is lunchtime we are talking about-I thought it was a bit excessive esp. as we were with DS who finds it hard to sit for very long.
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My dad is always going on about his "guts" and how he feels "blown up" and his health problems. His took his sock off to show me his swollen foot when I was eating my lunch today. He farts and burps constantly-doesn't attempt to hold it in around us even though I've told him I find it offensive. He calls gay people "poofs" even though his own nephew (my cousin) is gay and very much part of the family.
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My mum has a screechy "fish wife" voice and shouts and points her finger when talking which really makes me 
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They profess to be christians but talk as if everyone else is wrong and my mum will say she "can't stand" someone-usually because they are gay.
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For the last two nights, I've had no help with clearing up the dinner dishes. My mum sat on the sofa finishing a bottle of wine after I'd had one glass. I finally sat down at 9.30pm after making them coffee.
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They are really messy and my mum is clumsy. She is always spilling or breaking things in our house and they leave mugs/glasses/plates on the top instead of putting them in the dishwasher.
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My dad puts on a ridiculous fake cockney accent esp. when he's had a few to drink and talks a lot to me a "baby" voice which makes me want to vomit.
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My mum has hideous dress sense. My eyes almost pop out of my head when I see what she's wearing sometimes.
Seeing all of this written down, they sound hideous. Yet, I know they really love me and apart from a few things in my childhood, I didn't have an awful time growing up.
I just feel so 
that I don't have the kind of relationship I would like with them. I feel so envious of other people when I meet their parents and they are so normal. I feel like my love for them has faded. I hardly ever go and see them (they live a fair distance away) and never want to speak to them on the phone. I would be happy not to have contact but I know they would be heartbroken.
I just can't take another 20-30 years of this. I have a tension headache the whole time I'm with them and just feel really cross with them.
Apologies for such a long post. Well done if you've got to the end. There is more to say but I've gone on long enough. I just needed to get this out of my system.
Please tell me if I'm being a snob or is this unacceptable behaviour?