husband accidentally hits head on a low doorframe and gets very angry. as he leaves the room he shuts me in loudly and shuts another door loudly on his return through the house. the message, i am hurt and it is your fault. he has always been like this whenever he accidentally hurts himself. instinctively i said "you ok" and now, after years of this type of scenario, i think me even uttering a word after he has hurt himself really winds him up. so i should stop doing that. but even if i always manage to hold my tongue, i know he will always take it out on me. early in our relationship i protested, now i have just lost the will. i just dont want to be round him. his other guaranteed behaviour is to do this just before going to bed and to lie silently in bed and tomorrow morning he will behave like nothing ever happened, bring me a cup of tea, nothing is ever ever discussed or mentioned, i dont think he has ever apologised for anyting in his life (or certainly not to me i guess because he thinks he has never done anything to me to warrant an apology or acknowledge that his behaviour might be hurtful). no replies needed just wanted to type it out somewhere