My dh prefers tv to sex!

[Irishchic]

I am fed up with this. He will watch Dragons Den, Match of the Day, anything rather than come up to bed before midnnight, usually doesnt make it to bed before half 12 or 1am.

Anytime we have sex it is at my suggestion/instigation, unless it is early morning and he has woken up with a hard on, or, we have been on a night out and he is tipsy, then he gets frisky.

So, other than when he wants relief from a hard on, or is drunk, he is never interested in sex.

I have tried to talk to him about this, tell him that he has to make the effort sometimes, has to initiate it, make me feel sexy etc, but to no avail.

I am only 41, and without wanting to blow my own trumpet am holding up pretty well on the looks/figurewise, but I work at it.

But sometimes wonder why I bother because I may as well be invisible as long as there is a tv in this house!

Off to bed now, thanks AF, TD, PAPILLON and everyone else for all advice and support xx

Anyfucker - agreed...but sometimes there are hidden health issues such as diabetes?

AF - Cross posted . I am 41 and he is 42, so not exactly ready for the zimmer frames yet. I am TOO YOUNG to settle into cosy companionship just yet, I still need the passion dammit!

Really off to bed now, (on my own as usual!)

yes, TD, I agree

that is what I meant by saying he might not be interested if he was ill (meaning an outward illness or something hidden causing fatigue/low mood/anxiety)

good night, Nikita, keep us posted on your err, exercise regime

night night all

what happens if you simply wait for him to come to bed..... and then jump him?

I am never awake by the time he gets to bed (12.30 to 1am) as am always whacked by 11pm, (unless we are out and I've had a couple of drinks) but most weekday nights am out for the count by 11.30pm, I dont even wake when he comes into the room an hour and a half later and so deep into sleep.

I used to be a night owl, but now with 5 kids to get on the school run i need my kip!

you've gotta wonder what he is doing from 11.30 to 1am . . . there's really not much on the TV at that time..

I know what you're saying but this guy would watch paint try if it was on the telly, he will watch re runs of csi, things he has sky plussed, world darts championships any damn thing rather than get to bed, he know its silly and gets annoyed with himself for being slightly addicted to the box and then feeling tired the next day cos of not getting enough sleep but still not enough to switch off the box!

My DH is the same...... endless minor sports matches get watched from 11pm to 1am and then he fails to get up and have breakfast with me and the children in the morning. It's a habit, I guess, that is difficult to break (like me spending too much time on MN when I could be doing something constructive).

Notsocrates - But surely being on Mumsnet is a worthy pastime in itself, unlike tv think of all the useful bits of info and support that we get on here, I know it keeps me sane at times, (and its cheaper than paying for therapy!)

I used to watch all that stuff as well...but I would always always prefer romance or a roll in the sac as most blokes would....i think that DH needs new batteries....exercise, health drive......