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Sex afterchildbirth??!!

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snoobiesmummy90 · 05/09/2010 22:10

Baby was born over 2 weeks ago now. Really need some advice please on how to restart our sex life. DH is clearly still up for it but not pushing me into anything. So far only giving him oral and hand rfelief, sorry to be so graphic, lol. Anyway, the other problem is worried sick about getting pregnant again!! Advice please??!!

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BongoWinslow · 07/09/2010 10:04

I think I love you chipppy47

swallowedAfly · 07/09/2010 10:24

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Coolfonz · 07/09/2010 10:27

tis fake i reckons

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snoobiesmummy90 · 07/09/2010 13:15

Yes I have tried to talk to him bout the sex thing.

He says he was in shock at being present during c section and seeing stuff he would rather not see, and me in pain and distress, baby was in distress prior hence emergency c section.

Yes my hubby sees his son who is a dad himself, my hubby is a grandad of a 4 year old.

My hubby is on paternity leave at mo and not coping well as he thought.

Cool, not sure why you think im a fake? Hey ho, your view.

By posting on here I just wanted to hear how others fare after childbirth, as when I had my son in 1990 I was single so I didn't have this as an issue way back then.

Just want my marriage to stay on track, thats all. Like I said before its my first marraige and I believe marriage is for keeps!

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AnyFucker · 07/09/2010 13:19

snoobie...are you of the opinion that only you have to move heaven and earth (as well as spread your poor, battered, post-operative legs...) to hold on to your marriage ??

does your "hubby" not have to make any effort at all ?

although I fully suspect that hubby, who is on paternity leave, is currently looking aftr 2 week old baby so that you can spend your day on MN

am I right ?

swallowedAfly · 07/09/2010 15:52

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Pioneer · 07/09/2010 17:30

I'm sorry I don't mean to be rude, but if you believe marriage is for keeps then why marry someone who you suspect will stray at the drop of a hat (or baby ).

Agree with swallowedafly - you need to talk to him about your relationship worries.

SauvignonBlanche · 07/09/2010 17:34

From a purely physical point of view it can be less complicated after a C/S as your fanjo hasn't been mauled (only your abdomed sliced open!). I had 2 EC/S and had sex 2 weeks after the first and a week after the second - gently!
It sounds to me as if there is a lot more that the physical side concerning you and you need to talk to your DH.
Good luck!

AnyFucker · 07/09/2010 17:36

< wonders why snoobie is not answering any of my questions >

chippy47 · 07/09/2010 18:41

Thanks Bongo! A nice thing to read while escaping the in-laws who are visiting and a bit full on.

Pioneer · 07/09/2010 20:19

Is OP still there??

robbie09 · 08/09/2010 00:25

We had sex again after 3/4 wks with our first but only becaause i was ready aand i wanted it but u should really go careful, the pill doesnt always work. My first ss 10weeks old when i fell pregnaant for my second! I wwas on pill with both... after 2nd we had sex after 3-4wks aagasin becaause i wanted to. If ur reaady use condoms till u get sonething sorted

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