Seriously!...... why do men do that?????

[HelenEmjay]

Why is it my dp THINKS he could run our house and raise our kids better than me? why do men think that women just cant do a job anywhere near as good as they can? is it just my fella? he stood in the kitchen last night (the gleaming sparkly clean kitchen) and told me i hadnt managed to finish all the laundry as i dont manage my time well enough !!! im due to have our third baby in about 2 weeks and i am furiously cleaning the house all the time!!, i have to say normally i can be a little untidy but i always make sure its a clean house - i HATE dirt! He smiles at me and knows he's winding me up, but we must have discussed it for a good couple of hours! apparently i can 'make more time'!!!! if i planned my day better i can make more time and get more stuff done! are alot of men like this, or is my fella being a selfish pig??? maybe im being sensitive!??? its just really pi**ed me off, im proud of my house and ALL that i achieve, he just takes that all away with one mean comment! - sorry rant over!

[Miaou]

Passionflower, hd was joking! (at least I hope so!)

[magnolia1]

Well he is a man so maybe not

[milward]

Helenemjay - you need to rest now. Make a list of everything you do everyday for your dp. He can then take over all the tasks whilst you concentrate on being pregnant. If he's at work then when he comes home he can take over the cleaning & childcare - you've been at work a whole day as well plus you're preg. When you're in hospital have a time management plan for him to follow. When you come home have the same organised.

[Passionflower]

Oops, sorry HD.

Not quite used to this yet as new girl

[kelli22]

omg what a cheeky git, im 37 n half wks pregnant and if i dont feel like doing anything then i just do the bare minimum n why the hell not if my dp asks why i havent done something i say its cause im busy - creating a life!!!!!!!!!! it takes it out of you, you cant expect to have an immaculate house in our condition! cheeky begger

def think you should remind him of his comments when he is in charge of looking after everything after your c section. also agree with the hes your partner not your boss comment and a little appreciation is not too much to ask!

i have to be fair to my dp and say that the other other morning he woke me up and said thank you, i was abit confused (like you are when they do something out the blue) and asked what id done, he said for looking after the house and our dd

what a result!

[Wordsmith]

What a cheeky git. Get him to try doing what you do and keeping the house as clean as you do and see what happens!

I always tell my DH he could multi-task like me if he planned his time a little more effectively. But he does things like walk past things at the bottom of the stairs when they need taking upstairs; driving, for example, to the video shop, then going out again to get some petrol, when he could have done one on the way to the other; and when he cooks he never tidies up as he goes along (ie put pans in to soak, put herb jars away etc.)

He tries hard poor lamb but I really think he'd blow a gasket if he had to do it all the time.

[Nightynight]

my ex was like that too (you're not seeing him are you helen??)
It soon dried up though when he had to look after the children and the house himself.

[shhhh]

I would look after myself, by that I mean wash,dry & iron your own clothes. Cook your own meals etc and do only your's & the childrens stuff.(obviously do with same for your children).
Come monday morning when dh ask's where his clean shirts are or his clean underwear is or even when he asks where his dinner is as you sit down to a lovely juicy steak...tell him...he should have "managed" his time well! LOL...Take a photo of his face for me!