Seriously!...... why do men do that?????

[HelenEmjay]

Why is it my dp THINKS he could run our house and raise our kids better than me? why do men think that women just cant do a job anywhere near as good as they can? is it just my fella? he stood in the kitchen last night (the gleaming sparkly clean kitchen) and told me i hadnt managed to finish all the laundry as i dont manage my time well enough !!! im due to have our third baby in about 2 weeks and i am furiously cleaning the house all the time!!, i have to say normally i can be a little untidy but i always make sure its a clean house - i HATE dirt! He smiles at me and knows he's winding me up, but we must have discussed it for a good couple of hours! apparently i can 'make more time'!!!! if i planned my day better i can make more time and get more stuff done! are alot of men like this, or is my fella being a selfish pig??? maybe im being sensitive!??? its just really pi**ed me off, im proud of my house and ALL that i achieve, he just takes that all away with one mean comment! - sorry rant over!

[shhhh]

I would look after myself, by that I mean wash,dry & iron your own clothes. Cook your own meals etc and do only your's & the childrens stuff.(obviously do with same for your children).
Come monday morning when dh ask's where his clean shirts are or his clean underwear is or even when he asks where his dinner is as you sit down to a lovely juicy steak...tell him...he should have "managed" his time well! LOL...Take a photo of his face for me!

[Nightynight]

my ex was like that too (you're not seeing him are you helen??)
It soon dried up though when he had to look after the children and the house himself.

[Wordsmith]

What a cheeky git. Get him to try doing what you do and keeping the house as clean as you do and see what happens!

I always tell my DH he could multi-task like me if he planned his time a little more effectively. But he does things like walk past things at the bottom of the stairs when they need taking upstairs; driving, for example, to the video shop, then going out again to get some petrol, when he could have done one on the way to the other; and when he cooks he never tidies up as he goes along (ie put pans in to soak, put herb jars away etc.)

He tries hard poor lamb but I really think he'd blow a gasket if he had to do it all the time.

[kelli22]

omg what a cheeky git, im 37 n half wks pregnant and if i dont feel like doing anything then i just do the bare minimum n why the hell not if my dp asks why i havent done something i say its cause im busy - creating a life!!!!!!!!!! it takes it out of you, you cant expect to have an immaculate house in our condition! cheeky begger

def think you should remind him of his comments when he is in charge of looking after everything after your c section. also agree with the hes your partner not your boss comment and a little appreciation is not too much to ask!

i have to be fair to my dp and say that the other other morning he woke me up and said thank you, i was abit confused (like you are when they do something out the blue) and asked what id done, he said for looking after the house and our dd

what a result!

[Passionflower]

Oops, sorry HD.

Not quite used to this yet as new girl

[milward]

Helenemjay - you need to rest now. Make a list of everything you do everyday for your dp. He can then take over all the tasks whilst you concentrate on being pregnant. If he's at work then when he comes home he can take over the cleaning & childcare - you've been at work a whole day as well plus you're preg. When you're in hospital have a time management plan for him to follow. When you come home have the same organised.

[magnolia1]

Well he is a man so maybe not

[Miaou]

Passionflower, hd was joking! (at least I hope so!)

[Passionflower]

HD, right how???

Bet HEmjay's DP wouldn't like it very much if she marched into his place of work and criticised how he did it!

He's not her bloody boss, he's her partner.

When I had this row with my DH, I pointed out the above, and to give him credit he accepted that he was out of line.

IMHO I don't think you can have an imaculate house, and happy kids. They mess the place up in no time flat. Best thing to do is let the house go hang and get out down the park or beach.

[HappyDaddy]

HelenEmjay - your dp is right, though.

[Sexonlegs]

OMG it makes me want to scream - I'm all fired up an' all as I have have had some wine! Bring it on!

[bambi06]

i went away WITH THE KIDS for a week to my parents and id left a couple of kids paint pots in the sink to be washed and guess what ...they were still there when i came back in exactly the same position..plus he hadnt touched the bathroom but told me about all the other stuff hed done that i`d asked him to do..see if you dont put it on a list they dont think to do it..selective blindness as well as deafness!!!!

[Sexonlegs]

Just PMSLing- what a wonderous idea! Can you imagine it! Please please trial it and let us know how you get on!

[morningpaper]

OMG you just HAVE to get away for a weekend.

Explain that you would REALLY like to know how to manage your time better, so if he could run the house as he thinks correct and then keep a timetable for you to follow, that would be really helpful.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[anorak]

Oh and don't forget to leave the fridge empty.

[anorak]

When he comes home Friday kiss him on the cheek as you pass him at the front door, saying, I need a break. Back Sunday afternoon, hope your time management skills are up to it.

[mymama]

Next time he wants a romp just tell him you haven't made time for that today .

[HelenEmjay]

LOL will do!

[Lio]

Hilarious. Flamesparrow has the right idea - a really really big spoon though

[HelenEmjay]

LOL! i think you have to laugh dont you? before you hack your own head off in despair anyway

[Sexonlegs]

Oh fantastic HE, you made me laugh out loud! It is so re-assuring to know that this is going on in house-holds around the Country!
It is no wonder we are nagging old bags - the number of times I have to ask for something to be done, it would be quicker to do it myself (I usually do anyway!!)

[HelenEmjay]

This is it!! - they do think they have every right in the world to sit on there ares on do what they want! i spent most of sunday afternoon bleaching and scrubbing the bathroom and all the doors and door frames upstairs and hoovering it all up there, i then came downstairs and drove to tesco's got soem food and came home and then prepared a nice chicken salad and desert, i didnt think it was much to expect that he washed the pots for me, but the next day he still hadnt and when i asked why, this sparked a row as he said while i was doing all that, he had done the front garden and put some architrives (sorry sp??)up around a new door we just got put in, and so he says it isnt much to ask that i say 'oh its ok hun you've been working, so i will wash up too!' cos i was just sat on my are all day wasnt i? WAAAAAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!! i really hate to be a moaning old cow, but i really really feel like im banging my head against a wall! - maybe i should do that literally - it might drown him out!

[Sexonlegs]

I have to say my dh is generally pretty good, but the other day he had had lunch (about half an hour- he works from home) whilst I was running aroud the house. After taking a work call, he was sat on the sofa watching the b* cricket. I asked him what he was doing and he said that as he had only had half an hour before the call, he was now going to have another half an hour! The washing machine was needing emptying, as was the dishwasher, and I had to fly out to pick up dd from nursery! It makes me laugh - not. I cannot remember the last time I had an hours lunch break! I think the problem stems from his mum (eastern European)who is like a slave in their house. Her dh just sits on his a** whilst being waited on hand and foot!

[newmumhelp]

I was in hospital for 2 days when i had ds, and dp hadn't done the washing up for a day, and i went mad at him. He did it, and then was running around after me, making me drinks, food etc whenever i wanted. He has to remember, its not exactly a walk in the park having a baby. He should be looking after you, not telling you off for coming home too early as its 'inconvenient'. Git!!! Give him a slap.

[dyzzidi]

You should ask him to write down his time management plan for the time you are in hospital so that he doesn't forget to do anything and has a comprehensive list of things that need doing.

men are so bloody stupid at things like this it really annoys me.

Good luck with the new baby and put your feet up girl!