to the ladies that dont like their mil's - how would you feel if they passed away?

[juice]

sorry if its a bit morbid, but i am really curious to know.

i seriously dont think i would even drop one tear for my mil.

what about the rest of you's?????

I have a friend who would be very pleased!

relieved.....

Devastated for my Dh and kids, and sad that her unhappy life had come to an end with no apparent pleasure BUT slightly destressed. And not scared of the phone.

yes the phone, I understand what you mean.

havent read anyone elses posts, this is a bit bizarre because in an hours time it will be exactly a year since my MIL died.

i never really got on with her but i am very sad for my dh. he misses her terribly, and he misses her because of all the things he wants to tell her that dd1 and dd2 (who she never met, i was 8 mths pg when she died) are doing every day

its a wierd feeling

Doesn't apply to MIL as i get on fantastically with her (Not MIL yet but will be in 9 months ).

However, in response to someone asking "wouldn't you feel the tiniest bit sad". I have been in a sitation before when a member of my family has passed away, i didn't shed a tear, I hated him more than i have ever hated anyone in my life. He was my Grandfather, i use that term very lightly indeed. Just because someone has a name i.e Mother, father, Nan, Granddad etc does not mean they automatically deserve your respect and love, that is something they have to earn IMO. Some people would say that because it was their mother, father etc that they would be sad but i personally would not.
I would be sad because I loved the person, they loved me, the were kind, loving, nice, warm, funny etc not just because of a name.
I coudn't bear the thought of even referring to this man as my granddad when my Maternal grandad was all of the things i have listed above. I was so unbelievably sad when he died in April, it hurt like i could not have imagined, nothing at all like when my other "so called" grandad died.

Anyone for a party!

Have just had my BIL and family over to stay for a weeks hol. Poor them, lucky us, she lives round the corner from them 600 miles from us. Hooray!

My SIL to be is utterly saintly. The thing she has to put up with you just wouldn't believe.

My MIL is a selfish, mean, thoughtless and rude. Even her daughter doesn't like spending much time with her.

I'd feel sorry for my DH, but then I already feel sorry for him for having her for a mother anyway.

went thru exactly this last Christmas. Had many mixed emotions including guilt i have to say, felt hypocritical at funeral. But now the main prob is dh runnin around after his father all the time, i really resent that and wish my mil was still around! v selfish i know.