Oh fuck I have been so stupid

[bottyburpthebarbarian]

OK brief history

Separated from hubby

Few disastrous relationships.

Met a guy I thought would be a keeper - we went on holiday it was a disaster and he is totally dumped (my choice)

So, get back from hols and a really old friend comes to visit.

Really old in both senses - known him almost 30 years, and he's tons older than me.

And reader I shagged him.

Oh fuck.

Slap me.

was it good though.....

Why do you need a slap?

Are you regretting it?

why is this a bad thing? :o

If one of my RL friends finds out she'll kill me and I know she comes on here sometimes for a start

oh and yes it was good - very good - the best ever in fact

why post then?

x-posts.

well, good then! is there a possibility of it continuing?

chasing - none, he lives very far away

and i feel weird about it

Why will your rl friend kill you? Is it her dad? grandad?

Does your sex life directly affect her?

Is there a reason why you shouldn't be having sex with this person?

I am, however, planning to make the most of it while he's here - I think???

:)

RL friend has never met him , they aren't related or anything

No reason other than he lives miles and miles away so it won't be a relationship, and he's years and years older than me

Are you thinking there is some kudos in shagging a much older man then? What is point of post?

I just feel guilty, I don't do casual sex and I feel weird bout it

Oh don't feel weird about it ... that stops the enjoyment

Sorry... I am not sure what the 'problem' is. I can understand you wanting to share.. that is what MN is about. Why is your friend's approval so important if you don't mind me asking?

BUT.. you are getting good shagging, no commitments, as long as you both know where the other is coming from.. ermmmm.. why are you on here and not making the most of him being around

OK OK OK so I need to move my head into the 21st century and get the "I am a slut" notion out of my head

Thank you ladies

Hmm.. 'casual'.. redefine it... a brief physical connection with someone you are close to can be what you want it to be...

ok I have known this guy since I was 12

He is 16 years older than me

We hung around together right up until I was 20 and the ex and me got married - and nothing happened

We kept in touch, which wasn't easy firstly because of the ex, secondly because of the distance.

He knows me better than just about anyone else and is the first person I would turn to in a crisis - and I have.

And now I've shagged him.

Am I making sense yet?

Oh i don't even know myself

good friends can make great partners, they already know you, the good bits and bad bits.
Have you spoken to him about it, did he stay the night, did he get up an make excuses, did you make him a cuppa afterwards? eh eh?

16 years older is no big deal!

He's still here, we're going out to dinner tonight.

The distance might be an issue. He lives on another continent.

If you're single and he's single, what is the problem?
It's not like he's old enough to be your dad/grandad.

Malificence - I don't know, I just feel weird about it.

Oh FFS I need to get over myself hey???

You have the opportunity to have great sex with someone you know and trust, yet its no strings attached.

A) I don't see what the problem is

and

B) What on earth are you doing on here when you could be having great sex, with someone you know and trust, yet its no strings attached.

Get shagging woman!

Enjoy