Is it OK to wear a ring, when you're not engaged or married?

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I don't want to break some unwritten (or indeed written!) code, but DP wants to get me a ring to wear because I like to have something to think of him, when I see it iyswim.

I wore an old one today and he asked me about it and I said it was to remind me of him when he wasn't here.

So he said he'd get me one. But I don't know if this is a bit silly - or if there is a certain finger I should wear it on, obv not wedding finger! and what sort of ring.

Is this a common thing, or are we being weird? I could of course drop heavy hints about getting hitched but it is rather early days for that

Do what you like - I didn't wear my wedding ring for two years but was no less married (just too fat from having babies to wear it ). I wouldn't think it meant anything.

I don't think it's weird, it sounds nice. Not that it would matter, but if you wore it on your middle finger there's no way anyone could pick up the 'wrong' signal about it.

same finger, other hand.

Why not have him get you a friendship ring ~ for now?!

Congratulations Reality I'm really happy for you! Haven't had a chance to say so yet. How is wedded life?

Yes maybe middle finger would do, or right hand ring finger though I know it would get on my nerves there!

Is it called a friendship ring then? Does it matter what it looks like - I was hoping something plain, silver, maybe a pattern or script but not a jewel or anything because it'll get caught on stuff. I am always fiddling about with engines and chickens.

You can wear an eternity ring on your wedding finger - get something classic and then if you ever do get engaged and married you can get rings that go with the eternity ring.

Ah, here we are.

I wasn't sure about eternity rings. Are they not for people who have been married already and want to signify their strong commitment after a few years?

MrsR, ta sugar I am happy too! He's lovely. He's been after me for a while the mad sod and then I was after him, and finally, finally we sorted it out!

I can never leave him because he fixes my bikes.

so really marriage is definitely on the cards whether he likes it or not.

I am very glad you are enjoying yourself!

Oh MrsR! You are glowing with benificent joy arent' you dear!!! How lovely

I sneaked a look at someone's pics they had up of you, and your husband is completely gorgeous btw! As are you!

thanks for saying that though. It means a lot x

Me and my DP wear rings even though we arent married/engaged. When we first started wearing them people asked why and we just said it was more a sign on commitment than anything :)

I wear mine on the same finger, but the other hand. Had one a while ago that was on my middle finger but had to take it off when my fingers swelled during pregnancy So now I have an even shiner one

PS: Congrats, Reality, you looked stunning in the photos :) (Nosed on Gigantaur's FB)

You can wear a skull ring on your 'wedding finger' if you like. They are your fingers after all.

Thanks Shiny

I think I just wanted to get it right this time, having never done anything properly, y'know! And I was wearing the old ring I had on my wedding finger because it fitted, and is an easy finger to use, but it seemed a bit cheeky when we're not getting married (yet)
so I wondered if there was a protocol.

He is Argos man tho
I don't want to get too excited

Lol Trillian

he'd probably love that. He was drawing his initials on my arm earlier. Ds got a skull and crossbones. Then DP did himself my name, in biro, in Suzuki lettering.

Really, really classy.

Well it's cheap innit. Nowt wrong with that! lol

Btw don't worry, he isn't the married one!

I'm not you, obviously - and your feelings are ALL that count here! I wear rings on whichever finger fits, wedding finger or not. But ... if I were you, I would look for a second-hand/antique ring (much better value than new, as you save on tax, and more unique). I would call it a "friendship" or "eternity" ring and wear it on That Finger.

Then, if you do get hitched, you can wear it with the others & it'll kind of chart your relationship :)

Flight - thought of you today when new toast catalogue came through the door

Trills puts it well