Shit

[SingItBack]

No doubt DH will read this as he did the previous thread, but I have tried and tried to think of another outlet for my feelings and there isn't one.

Don't need any input or sympathy, just need to put my thoughts down in print.

Yesterday I wrote quite a revealing/nasty post about how I felt DH did not understand how I felt re: looking after the children. No need to expand on that, suffice to say he looked at my history and read the post.

He has now disappeared in an almighty fury (sort of understandably).

I am left here feeling hurt, sad and angry.

Have name changed, although if he wants to find my post no doubt he will. Feel in a corner.....

BTW he is not abusive etc etc, and I suspect he has always rather disliked me.............

Anyway we have 2 childers, so doubt he will leave.

So folks, thanks for listening to that rather disjointed rant. No need to reply. Just needed an outlet.

Did you want hime to find your history, do you want him to find it as a call of help type thing?

You can delete it hun.

Singit,

do you know how to clear your history?

Go to TOOLS at the top of your screen.
Click on delete browsing history.

then click on delete.

You need somewhere you can rant without him reading everything.

not really, although I didn't think it would be a big issue if he did. Turns out it was a huge issue. Have deleted my history now, but because he is far more computer literate than I am no doubt he could find it again.......

You can right click just this site too, not delete it all.

you need to delete your cookies/cached items as well - varies as to which browser you're using

Do you have a private browsing option? Click on that. That won't record your history, username or anything else.

That's in the future, you need to reset/clear your history etc first.

motn. That is what I use MN for. Just to get it our of my system so that it doesn't build up and cause a big row.

Feel quite trapped now though.........

We have always had a really good relationship, but I think he feels I am 'cheating' on him by having virtual friends on MN!

Bloody hell - sounds awful. is he always this insecure and controlling??

right, have cleared history and set to private browsing. Thanks one and all.

Yep, well I guess that's why mn is such a success. Because we can all rant here about whatever irks us WITHOUT it becoming a big thing in RL.

Our partners don't need to know everything about the way we think. Bloody hell, being married or whatever doesn't mean we give up all rights to privacy.

ssflower, in a way, yes

We all moan about our partners, and our children and our family and our friends, it's normal to complain a bit.

It is emphatically not normal to go through someone's internet history to read what they've been writing, with the possible exception of suspecting infidelity, and even then it's crass but probably quicker in the long run.

rafwife, I am on a Mac. How do I right click to delete just MN? Sorry but am clueless re Mac's

and what Minty said.

R u OK?

I really can understand why he looked thought my MN discussions. I am always saying ohh have a look, I had a disagreement about shopping trolleys etc. So would just have been a bit of amusement of a morn, trouble was last night I was bitching about him.

So have changed user name and know now how to private browse and delete history. Should be all fine..........

If you think DH is going to read this then, respectfully, I think you're mad to be posting it. Whatever the rights and wrongs of your situation are, giving him more to read probably won't help. Surely some of the comments above could make the situation worse?
Is it time you and DH sat down and sorted out a few things? The first one being, does he really dislike you, or do you both care about each other enough to sort this out?

ssflower, yes, fine. Furious for a bit, and still a lot to resolve in the am, but much better. Without MN, I seriously don't know what I would do. My initial anger was that I would not be able to MN freely without being spied upon. Felt very trapped. I have been out of work for 18 months due to redundancy and MN has been my lifeline, once RL friends got bored of me.

Thanks for asking, your concern is really appreciated

MLP. I had to think really hard about whether to post or not. DH is the sort who stews a while before sorting things out, whereas I need to deal with them there and then.

Have no doubt we will resolve things in the am, I hope he wants to sort it out, but deep down I think he has always rather disliked me...........

BTW we have been together 22 years...............

Stick to MN if you can, it sounds like a much needed lifeline for you. Really hope things work out for you.

ssflower, thank you so much. Tis a lifeline. Things will work out I expect. We both have too much to loose for them not to.

Tis all a bit shit though sometimes, non?

I hope the two of you can work this out. I really hope he doesn't dislike you, because if he does then it's pretty crap to be together isn't it? Good luck with it all.

Its so true-life is too short. You dont have to accept this way of life, but if you do utilise the support you have and Oui, tis all merde a lot of the time!!

Ohh I don't know with mac's is it not the same?