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Is your dh/dp/bf the father you thought he would be?

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Mandymoo · 23/08/2005 21:29

................... has be exceeded all your expeectations or left you feeling a little disappointed?

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kama · 23/08/2005 21:31

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newmumhelp · 23/08/2005 21:33

We're both new to all this parenting business, but so far, he is proving to be as caring, loving and supportive a father as he is a partner. I honestly couldn't cope without him, and neither could his son

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Mandymoo · 23/08/2005 21:34

Thats brilliant Kama - I'm only asking because sometimes I think I'm expecting too much from DH. He is quite a hands on dad and DD is such a daddys girl. Hes a teacher and currently on six week break and he has been wonderful (i work pt). I think i just put too much pressure on him sometimes to be the "perfect" dad when in actual fact he is already a pretty damn good daddy!!
Thanks for your reply X

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Mandymoo · 23/08/2005 21:35

Newmumhelp - thanks X

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MarsLady · 23/08/2005 21:36

he's better!

When DS1 was newly born he started crying and DH handed him over to me and said "Here you have him. I've never done this before!" I handed him straight back and said "Me neither!"

We've learnt it along the way, as everyone does. He adores them, they adore him. So he doesn't do it exactly the way that I do it... so what! They love each other. He's a good dad!

Littlestarsweeper · 23/08/2005 21:38

Hell no. He used to tell me how much time and effort he would put into his kids from previous marriage. Our precious ds came along and he is a good loving daddy but not as proactive as i would like.

When i try to coax him to play more or do more with him, he says he doesnt like knowing that I will be watching every move he makes with ds. Bah! lame excuse for not really knowing what to do.

He had just been feeding me a line about his previous kids to reel me in and appeal to my mother earth side.

ja9 · 23/08/2005 21:42

he is exactly as brilliant i dad as i thought he would be. he says to me every day (often several times) about ds, "isn't he just a cracker boy?". Makes me fill up to see how much he loves him!

Thomcat · 23/08/2005 21:48

Yes he is. Sometimes I think 'oi, come on', but most of the time their love for each other and their relationship gives me a lump in my throat and makes me so, so happy. It's got better and better.
I think I'm a more natural parent but he's still a great and much loved daddy.

expatinscotland · 23/08/2005 21:51

He is a better 'mum' than I am! He's incredible. Everyone notices. Everything comes naturally to him. He stays home w/DD during the days and we spend all weekend together. We share all the household work together, he's taken an active interest in the quality of the food we eat as a family and is always trying new recipes. He's an ace at making bread.

Cannot believe what an amazing husband and father I've got him.

Aimsmum · 23/08/2005 21:55

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TinyGang · 23/08/2005 22:00

Absolutely superb! He's currently in the garden 'camping' with dd for the night and been out all day with all three. I and they couldn't have hoped for better.

lynny70 · 23/08/2005 22:09

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TinyGang · 23/08/2005 22:28

Lynny - that's really made me
How lovely! Congratulations to you all.

lynny70 · 23/08/2005 22:33

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TinyGang · 23/08/2005 22:37

I'm on duty for tea and biscuits! Actually, it's all gone very quiet out there, so perhaps they've gone to sleep. I'm more of an indoors sort of girl!

fisil · 23/08/2005 22:39

way way exceeded mine (and his) expectations!

Kazziegirl · 23/08/2005 22:40

exceeded - he's a wonderful Dad and ds and dd adore him.

Tortington · 23/08/2005 23:42

dh played for twat united when we first married however he has grown into a wonderful father. a wonderful man too. sometimes he stillplays for the old team - but them so do i. on the whole hes a fab fab man

fairyfly · 23/08/2005 23:46

i'm left feeling a little disappointed

Beetle73 · 24/08/2005 22:48

What a great story Lynny. And what a lovely man.

lynny70 · 25/08/2005 12:57

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NomDePlume · 25/08/2005 13:02

He is as I expected.

He was a dad for 8 years before he even met me (2 DSs) so I knew exactly the sort of father he would be to any children we might have together. He is just as 'hands on' as I wanted, needed and expected, we both have the same sort of view on discipline etc which I think is important (united front and all that). He is a wonderful father to our DD and DSs, just as I knew he would be. I can't fault him.

oliveoil · 25/08/2005 13:40

He doesn't have much patience (she says having none) but he is v hands on. I expected him to be good though, he is a good husband (99% anyway).

PeachyClair · 25/08/2005 14:49

Probably not TBH. He's been through a lot of rubbish since ds1 was born though. He's totally without patience and not a great listener, but I'm OK on that front and he's great with the lego / hands on bit so it all works out!

ebbie22 · 25/08/2005 14:53

My dh isthe best daddy in the world to my dd,although shame cant be said about his husband duties.....

I didnt hold out much hope for him as wasnt so hands on whilst pregnant..but a brillent birthing partner....From wherever it came from

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