Is it strange to sometimes yearn for the single life?

[OrmRenewed]

I mean no DH and no DC. Just me.

Have never really lived alone apart from a few years at university and even then I was house-sharing.

I love my family and am not wishing them away. Just wanting them to live somewhere else. And not even that seriously, just idle musings. The mere idea of having my own space, my own music to listen to and art on the walls, only books I like on my bookshelves, answering to no-one, eating peanut butter without being treated like a leper . I've done domestic and family for years and there are times when it just feels claustrophobic

The more I think about the more appealing it seems. Is that odd?

Not at all. My MIL has never lived alone and she sounded a bit wistful when she said it.

I lived alone, apart from my cat, and really wish I had enjoyed the peace more.

i don't know if it starnge to do so but i often do. just the idea of being able to go out for a walk by myself without having to either organise a babysitter or explain to OH that i want some alone time.

Hey covent? Want to swap for a bit?

God, I do it every day OR, every single day. Love my family to bits but I'm really a person who enjoys peace and quiet and all the noise still feels so alient to me, especially first thing in the morning. Love it when my husband buggers off for the night so I have the place to myself.

I have lived by myself most my adult life until DH moved in with me. I LOVED it!! Soooo quiet.

What I love is walking downstairs about 6am when everyone else is asleep. Bliss! Sadly DD also wakes up early these days so I never get the house to myself.

If it is then I'm strange, too.

I find myself daydreaming the most improbable scenarios where I end up living as a single while dh and the dc are safe and secure somewhere else.

I think about this a lot. I think I am just not suited to family life; too introverted.

I don't live alone now Orm .

Oh no not strange, normal IMO! I loved the years I had in my own flat, noone else but myself to please. Selfish? Yes, very selfish but so what, I could be then with no H or DC to sort out and manage.

I sent my H and DS1 off on their own for a weekend, just before DS2 was born so I could have a last little bit of peace and I so loved it - ate what I wanted, when I wanted, watched DVDs as I liked, slept whenever I felt like it, was great!

Infact I might need to wind my DSs up into pestering H for a boys camping weekend so I can indulge again!

I also love the getting up before everyone else and getting loads done before I have to start with them. Doesn't happen often. I sometimes wonder about staying up all night too but I think it would kill me. I am knackered as it is.

DH got up at 4 this morning and I was awake straight away asking him what was up.

the thing that still annoys me after 5 years of parenthood is being woken in the morning. it puts me in bad form for the day. if i wake myself i am in great form but if hearing ds crying through the monitor is how i start my day i get grumpy.

i have never lived alone.

Perhaps having little glimpses of living alone would be enough Orm?

My friend who lives in the maddest, noisiest house with 5DC found this sort of retreat - a little one-bed cottage in the garden of someones house - that was rented out on a per night basis. Meals could be included, and left at the back door and there was the option of reiki, massage and other treatments from the house owners, or just complete solitude. She went for 3 days and loved it - doesn't it sound fabulous?

Not strange at all.
This weekend DP was at a festival while both children were away so I was on my own.
I enjoyed it so much, the house just felt peaceful.

Not strange at all. I have never lived alone, DH moved in with me virtually as soon as I had my own place years ago.

Right now I have a few days to myself as DH and DC's have gone away for a few days. The peace and quiet is so lovely and being able to totally do as I want, when I want is bliss as is not being at the beck and call of the DC's.

so glad this has been posted - I would LOVE a few days in my house on my own. I've never lived alone either (lived with others at uni)

DS isn't even 2!!

Sometimes ? Often. I crave this often. Even though i am very happy being married to dh.
But it is normal. I did what I wanted when I wanted. for years. no thought for anyone else. but all those years i craved someone to go for a walk with followed by a pub roast on a sunday.

I can't believe how many of you have never lived alone.
I need alot of me time and don't get enough.
I too do what loves2walk does and send dh and ds's off. Then I am home alone. So very happy.
Must do this again soon. Reminds herself.

why don't you others try it. it is better if you send them away, rather than you going, then you get the benefit of your 'home alone'.

i went from teenager in my mum's house to teenage mum in my own house so didn't give myself the chance to be solo oblomov.

my mum helps out with the dcs and will sometimes keep them overnight but i have to say i find it strange and often make up excuses as to why one or other of them has to stay here with me. i am so used to it now, i get lonely if i am alone in the house. i should arrange things to do by myself really.

Oblomov, yes I agree, I much prefer it when DH and the DC's are away so I can be at home alone as opposed to me going away somewhere to be alone.

booy, if you have the opportunity and you choose not to, i.e. you make an excuse to get one of your dc back, then i guess you don't feel the same as me. becasue i jump at every chance i can of being alone. if my sil offered to have ds1 (pre ds2) for the night, i was in heaven.

I lived alone for 14 years and loved it, now I live with DS and that's not too bad. I am lucky enough to have avoided ever moving in with partners in the past and it certainly won't happen now. Living with DC is tricky but at least (while they are small) you can put them to bed and have some thinking space, it;s hard to tell another adult to just go away for a bit and give you some peace.

to be honest, up until about a year ago the thought of living on my own was enough to set off panic attacks (never been good at my own company) but I guess that's what growing up does, makes you more happy to spend time on your own - I'm a bit jealous of friends who are in the position now of getting places on their own, wouldn't swap my DH and DS for the world and am pretty sure if I lived on my own would become either hermit who drinks too much or would be out so much that I wouldn't benefit from the peace and quiet of my own home!

When are babies big enough to go on camping trips alone with their dads?!

It is hard to tell another adult to go away and give you peace SGB, but I'm not sure why. Some people get edgy about it - my H being one of them. Really annoys me as I have no problem if he goes off to read a book on the bed or something else alone. But when I suggest a walk on my own, or going on the computer in a room other than the one he's in, there will always be some sort of huff or a sigh, to take the edge of my enjoyment.

The absence of loaded huffs is what I miss about living alone!

yes, i don't think i feel exactly the same way as you oblomov. i do like company, even if it is just knowing ds is in his cot sleeping. but there are times when i am envious of my sister and single friends who can come and go as they please. so i do sort of feel the same.