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Are toyboys worth it?

48 replies

poshsinglemum · 25/07/2010 19:42

All the men I fancy at the moment seem to be about 10 years younger than me. I don't know if I'd be able to have a lasting relationship with one but I bet the sex is good!

Anyone got a toyboy? Share your toyboy stories here.

OP posts:
MrsMorgan · 25/07/2010 19:49

I never fancied younger blokes, ever, but then I went and had a bit of a thing with a 23yr old (I am 32) and now I can't seem to make myself like anyone my own ge or older lol.

Oh and the sex was good, but if I am really honest, my xp was better (kills me to admit that lol).

AnnoyingOrange · 25/07/2010 19:54

depends how much they cost

Tortygirl · 25/07/2010 20:10

Yes!!
I have been with my toyboy now since 1992!
Mind you, my toyboy is only 9 days my junior!

BikeRunSki · 25/07/2010 20:27

My DH is 5 years younger than me and we have been together for 13 years. I was 27, he was 22 when we met.

msboogie · 25/07/2010 20:55

Well I have been in a relationship with a man 13 years my junior for years now and we have a beautiful toddler and are very, very happy. The age gap has no impact on our lives (ahem yet )

The age thing is mostly irrelevant - it is, like any other relationship, all about whether you get on well and how much you have in common. He is a sensible boy and I am a bit immature...

PeppermintPasty · 25/07/2010 21:19

ooh me too ms boogie, 13 and a half for us, doncha know...! what made me lol was annoyingorange's comment...mine has been very expensive over the years!!! ten years together now and a 3yo boy and a 3 month old girl. lovely. bloody rough ride getting here though!

dolphin13 · 25/07/2010 21:27

DH is 10 years younger than me but much more grown up . Been together 13 years, 2 LOs. Works for us.

And yes the sex is great

BelleDameSansMerci · 25/07/2010 21:30

Absolutely worth it...

prism · 26/07/2010 00:41

I am a toyboy, and very happy about it (12.5 years). We've been together for 10 years which is way longer than any other relationship for either of us. We really do have interests in common, and similar points of reference as our parents are (were, mostly) about the same age.

Personally I've never been very interested in younger women- if you meet someone who feels the same way you could be on to a good thing!

SkiHorseWonAWean · 26/07/2010 06:33

Boyfriend is 12 years younger and I'm typing one handed as I have our newborn on my lap. Couldn't be happier - no pissing baggage about "bitch ex-wife"!

Scorpette · 26/07/2010 19:47

My boyfriend is 9 years younger than me (been together over 3 1/2 yrs) and I've never been happier. He's a perfect blend of mature, committed, responsible and caring whilst being fun, carefree, easy-going, etc. I find that younger men don't have the same sexist presumptions that too many men of my age (37) have about gender roles and so on (I realise this is a mass generalisation) - something I won't tolerate in a relationship. Plus, he is HOT.

I also re-iterate Ski's thing about the refreshing lack of baggage. You can mould them into your perfect man, buahaha!

Although mine did ask me earlier, 'what was it like going to school on a Penny Farthing?'. Cheeky bugger!

primrose22 · 27/07/2010 11:02

I totally agree with scorpette, my dp is 11 years younger than me but way more mature and responsible than many of my friends partners. He is fun and v. caring, fantastic with my dc and has a wonderful attitude towards woman, which I think is v.much down to his age. He's a breath of fresh air! : )

sixesandsevens · 27/07/2010 21:44

I met someone 10 years younger than me at the weekend - we had a cheeky snog - he's incredibly gorgeous, but only young (early twenties). I know it will never go anywhere as we were both a bit drunk and I'd never be brave enough to contact him again, but I can daydream .....

prism · 27/07/2010 21:52

Oh go on 6x+7y, ring him up! He's probably daydreaming about you too!

You were both a bit drunk so it will never go anywhere??? I beg to differ...

sixesandsevens · 27/07/2010 22:18

I'm too scared!! It would not be cool to be ignored, and worse still to imagine that he thinks I'm a ludicrous old bag that's hassling him

He's the (very young) cousin of a good friend, so I'm bound to bump into him again at some point

sixesandsevens · 27/07/2010 22:22

oh prism - didn't realise you were a guy! It obviously worked out for you

I'm working on the basis that if he was at all interested he'd contact me ...

prism · 27/07/2010 22:38

I'm flattered to think I can be mistaken for a woman on mumsnet- mind you my wife thought I was gay when she met me. Obviously she wasn't my wife at the time. The thing is that guys, especially the sort you might want to go out with, are at least as shy as you and I can almost guarantee that at this moment he is saying to someone, "I'm working on the basis that if she was at all interested she'd contact me"...

It's a sad fact that even today with slightly more equality than has hitherto obtained, blokes still have to ask women out 99% of the time (cue dozens of posts from women who have preempted this), and even if you are the sort of bloke who likes older women, it takes some convincing for you to believe that anyone older, wiser, and probably quite hard to impress, would be interested in you.

expatinscotland · 27/07/2010 22:41

My husband is nearly 7 years younger than I am.

sixesandsevens · 27/07/2010 22:43

hmmm ... part of the problem is that he is a very cool, very hip, and very gorgeous guy, and I'm sure he has LOTS of offers from girls his own age!

Plus, if my friends found out I'd contacted him and he'd ignored me I would NEVER live it down

So ... although it's flattering to think that he might find it hard to believe I'd be interested in him, I'm think on this occasion I'm just going to leave it be

prism · 27/07/2010 22:58

Well all right then but I have to say that I thought exactly the same thing when I was the other side of the equation, twice. When I was in my 20s I met someone quite a bit older than me and thought A) She's completely gorgeous and B) She will as sure as eggs is eggs be bloked up- no chance José, and anyway why would she be interested in a juvenile like me? Further research revealed to my amazement that B) was not true and some wine later we were an item.

That time it did not work out, but a few years later I had exactly the same thoughts and, lo and behold, A) was true and B) was not. We are still together and I am a very lucky man.

Mind you, I have to admit that in both cases quite some time (months, I think) went by before we "bumped into each other" again. So I wasn't really following my own grasp-the-nettle-while-the-iron-is-hot advice then.

Good luck with it.

SpiritualKnot · 28/07/2010 08:53

Married my younger exH 19 years ago, when he was 21 and I was 30. He left me when he was 40 for a 29 year old.

A 21 year old with a 30 year old is envied by his mates. A 40 year old man with a 49 year old wife isn't. My ex was all about appearances so that was that.

Sex was not good at all, don't think age plays a factor in that!

But would go out with younger men again, definitely, older men now look really old to me now! Would never marry one again though.

sixesandsevens · 02/08/2010 17:39

ok ..... so after saying I wouldn't (!), I sent a fairly innocuous message over facebook to weekend toyboy (didn't have phone number), and just got a message back (also fairly boring just asking how i was and how my week is going) .....

what next?!!!

jesuswhatnext · 02/08/2010 18:10

oh sixes - have a fluttery tummy for you! - my dh is 10 years younger than me, we have been together 15 years, married for 10, he is one cool dude - the term 'toyboy' gets right up nose - the last time i spoke to my ex dh, biodad of dd, he had the nerve to ask how my 'toyboy' was! i repiled that the 'MAN who your dd calls dad is fine thanks' twat!!

2kids2dogsandahorse · 02/08/2010 18:19

Toyboys are GREAT (36/41) and go for it sixesandsevens I spent the first couple of months wondering why the hell such a fantastic and seriously gorgeous man was interested in someone so much older than him.

Turned out he finds women of his age shallow and boring which suits me just fine lol (apologies for all you 36 year olds I'm sure he's just biased in my favour)

sixesandsevens · 02/08/2010 19:10

I don't know whether he's just being polite or whether he's interested ... my radar is broken ...