Fuckity fuck. He's an arse. I know he is an arse, everyone else loves the arse. Damn I need to leave but how?

[howmanykidsinmygarden]

I need someone who can come and hug me give me practical advice about leaving an emotionally abusive arse partner who holds all the purse strings.

I have 3dc, two are preschool age, no job, no access to money, and no family near by due to his career.

I live in a relatively rural village and have no real friends or support. He holds a good job locally earning decent money, is a doting father, has never been violent and is well liked in our community.

Its all so bloody perfect on the surface, but, I'm walking on eggshells and cant see a a way to change things I feel sooo trapped.

I am a serial lurker who posts here irregularly under different names, for fear of being outed. Please don't ignore me.

Good post Sugarmouse. Good plan.

Having been in a similar position to the OP I am shocked at the naivty (sp) of some of the posters on this thread.

Having experienced this behaviour from my xp, I have to see from the outside no, it doesn't look like an urgent flit needs to made, however one does have moments of clarity where you just know that you have go soon - for the sake of the children and for your own mental health not to suffer.

I really understand OP, and thankfully I had family near me to support me leaving.

They had NO IDEA what I/we had been living with.

My XP should have qualified from the university of Gaslighting and associated personality disorders years ago!!!

When you have gone and removed the kids from this situation, you will not believe how relieved you are.

Everything is better. xxx