Dh, dd1 (4), dd2 (2) and me spend pretty much every weekend together, from morning to night. We often go out for day trips somewhere - about every other weekend. We also go swimming together once or twice a month. On a Sunday afternoon we visit the in laws for Sunday dinner. Whatever we do is generally together. Dh is great with the kids in the sense that he is very patient with them, is very good at talking to them at their level, being understanding with them - much better than I am. What we don't agree on, however, is how much undivided attention he should give the girls, eg playing with them with their toys etc. When we are at home, dh will read the paper or be on the computer or sometimes do stuff in the garden, and he'll respond to the girls if they come up to them with something, or he'll talk to them while doing gardening, but he never sits down with them just to play with them. I really think he should, but he thinks as long as they're happy playing by themselves and him (and me) being around, that's enough. What do you think?