Condoms :(

[Alwaysconfused55]

Basicly my boyfriend and I have been together nearly 2 years now and I have been on the pill close to that. However we still use condoms but I really don't like them and puts me off sex all together! How do I get round this? Or bring it up with boyfriend? Thanks. X

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If you want to go double-dutch, how about the diaphragm as well?

Are you using condoms to prevent STDs as well as pregnancy?

Does he insist on condoms?
Would he entertain the idea of a trip to the GUM clinic?

I guess all you can do is talk to your Boyfriend, tell him your secure in your relationship with him and your on the Pill so would he be will ing to stop using Condoms, you could both go for a basic STD check to put any worries about things like that aside.

and if it's just 'to be sure, to be sure' could you track your ovulation which will cut down on condom usage?

Honestly? If I were a bloke nowadays I would be reluctant to not use a condom, sorry and all that but I don't think I'd be willing to let them go unless it was a settled relationship approaching marriage.

If you ask me he is being sensible IMHO. He is taking responsibility to reduce the risk of unwanted pregnancy and not just leaving it to the female, very sensible.

It is a preventing pregnancy thing or a sexual health thing?

How about you suggest a visit to the GUM clinic before you discuss removing the condoms and see how that goes down? If it doesn't go down well then safer to keep them on IMO!

yes a full MOT at the sexual health clinic is worth doing. Will improve his pleasure if he has no condom but sexual health and birth control near guaranteed.

Why are you on the pill AND using condoms? After 2 years you should both trust each other enough to go to the GUM clinic first and then stop using condoms - if my boyfriend wasn't prepared to do this then I would question why! But you haven't said he's not open to that discussion, so just have a chat with him.

Weird. Why this situation?

As a 'bloke' I'd be crackers about ripping the sodding things off and getting stuck in!!

yes hora, was thinking that but trying to be subtle :-)

hora...what is a "bloke"

is it like a pretendy-man ?

Have you had a discussion with him what would happen if he stopped using condoms and you became pregnant, are you agreed on a course of action in this event - abortion or baby, and would you be prepared to follow through and keep your word?

Mumsnet seems to have lots of posters who get pregnant by accident (some of them accidently on purpose), don't think it's wrong he should take contraceptive responsibility if he doesn't want a child.

hora has been busted as a troll

I just read that thread lol!

Anyhoo totally agree LLS, if it's a pregnancy think IMO he is being very sensible, only hope my boys do the same when they get older!

< psst > RafWife, did you see my apology on the other thread ?

Aww I havent looked just sat down will go look now

Of course you need to speak to him if it puts you off - does he know that you dont like them?