Dh doesn't like oral sex..

[togoornot]

Well that's it really and just wondered if anyone had the same situation.

He' likes me to give him bj (not that i have for years!, virtually never have sex now anyway) but he never used to go down on me. I asked him why and he said he doesn't like it, just doesn't think it's very nice. Makes me feel a bit offended i suppose, i've enjoyed it with ex partners. A while ago when i asked hm if he like my bum and if he wanted to kiss it, his reponse waas it had never occurred to him to do so!

Am i wrong to be a bit hurt or should i just accept he doesn't like it?

Togo, I realise that it is not easy to deal with ASD type behaviour, but, if you are going to stay with him, you have to stop these ' am I wrong to be hurt' type posts. Not because you are wrong to feel that way, but because it will never change. He is not going to suddenly start enjoying it. 'Social' difficulties are a fact of life for ASD folk. And though, sometimes, it is possible to teach them certain social niceties, the fact would still remain that it would not occur to him to do certain things just because you like them. You would have to ask and I suspect that you would also 'feel hurt' that he didn't do these things spontaneously.

Please read this See if there is a local support group for families of adults with Aspergers. If you are going to make a success of your marriage, it is going to be by really understanding how his condition will affect the relationship and how you may have to learn to accommodate it and the compromises you will have to make. You are not going to get anything sorted by regularly posting on here in your usual manner. Of course, if you post from a different perspective, ie: that of a partner finding it hard to cope with the day-to0day stuff that ASD throws at you, I am sure you will get all the support that you need. Maybe you could also try the special needs board for advice about learning to accept and live with the condition.