Did anyone catch the husbands side on radio four??

[Maxwellthecat]

I am just listening to this now and holy hell he is vile!!!
Just as bad as her. I want to hear the other woman's side now.

Found it. What grim listening

Grim www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0089nbb Christmas

Just listening to the update now. I just feel quite sad listening to it and the unhappiness in their lives.

It was grim. She sounded more together but so sad. Dear knows what he‘ll be saying come Saturday‘s recording.

What is the point of It?

Beats me. I couldn't bring myself to listen to the update. They were both so toxic. I feel terribly sorry for the children.

On Twitter someone has commented how unfortunate and unhelpful to people with depression it is that she said she had been offered antidepressants but wouldn't take them because she was a strong person. From what I remember of last year's interview strong is not the word I'd choose.

Yeah, as a card-carrying depressive ON LONGTERM MEDS, l was shouting at her then. However, till reading about her here, I‘d very conveniently forgotten that bit.

Her comments about anti-depressants are just pure ignorance. I do wonder if they can ever have a healthy relationship, her only reason for staying seemed to be that not staying was failing.

Just listened to the wife more carefully than when I was half asleep last Saturday . Other than her not calling the OW the fat slag any more - presumably on instructions from her husband - she doesn't seem to have moved on much. Her comment about not taking antidepressants because she is a 'strong' person annoyed me, too. Though Eddie Mair made a good point about her prevaricating over counselling because she was afraid of what she might find out. I love Eddie Mair

I really can't understand (1) why they are still together, and (2) why they have done this. Fascinating radio, mind, and I'll be listening to the husband tomorrow.

Just listened to the husband. Clearly they’re still together for social reasons. This happened to a family member of mine whose husband was actually keeping a mistress in a flat in central London. He was hideous but she couldn’t bare the shame of divorce. He may well have similarly fantasised about living in a Belgian Monastry with free beer. Without any malice, I think they deserve each other. They are one of a mall group of people who will understand each other and create each other’s hell for them both to live in. Just unspeakable sad.

OMG, he described his marriage before the affair as sedentary, curated and stagnant . Bit disappointed that his follow-up interview was so much shorter than his wife's. I'd love to hear from the OW, but that's clearly not going to happen. I think you are right Misstomrs in saying they deserve one another.

Obvs, it's also incredibly sad that they seem stuck in this situation and unable to progress, whether that be together or separately.

Why did they stay together ? Neither love each other . She is so hurt and angry and he is deeply unhappy with her . They should split as it's never going to work

He sounded unrepentant this morning, and as if he believed that if he just waits it out and complies with the wife’s controls and restrictions he will be forgiven. I didn’t understand the ban on Elvis Costello.
It’s awful for the wife, but I found her deeply dislikeable last week, especially over the antidepressants. She came across as a very long way from being mentally well.

It struck me tonight she was never asked if she loves him, was she? I can‘t believe she‘d have said she did. He said he loves her. It must be like Prince Chas ‚whatever that means‘. I wonder what the offspring think of it all. I found it slightly intriguing in all its ghastliness.

Just listened to the husband. Vile.