Hi we lived in Send until two years ago and we loved it except for the busy main road (trucks use it as a cut through to Woking and the A3, it's a popular place for HGV's to learn to drive too).
There are some lovely quiet roads in Send however. There is a lovely medical centre with a phamacy attached. A row of shops with sandwich shop, newsagent, Indian restaurant (very highly recommended) a dodgy (IMHO) chinese/ fish and chip shop. An evangelical church is in Send too. Oh and an active village hall with parking (the pre school nursery is held here). The infant school looks really really nice (fingers crossed our DS's get in there!)
Ripley is also nice, there are some exclusive/ private roads here. Church on the main road, village hall (the mother and toddler group meets there on a Weds morning). Both villages have a post office each.
Ripley main road is always busy as it's the slip on to the A3 north bound. There is a Junior school.
Clandon is great too however I'm not sure if there are any shops there at all. There is a church and an infant school. Some private/ exclusive roads and some VERY very nice properties to drool over.
If you'd like to CAT me I can send you a copy of the local Families magazine and the Grapevine which lists local schools and toddler groups and loads of other info.
Send, Ripley and Clandon are SO SO convenient for accessing the A3 north or southbound.
We moved to the outskirts of south Woking as two years ago house prices in the villages were just silly and we couldn't get a house we liked in our budget BUT...... well lets just say there are quite a few houses on the market to rent or to buy at the moment.
Hope this helps. Looking forward to meeting you if you do decide to move here. Good luck!