London vs Norwich — choosing between two very different lifestyles. How did you decide?

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We’re currently renting in East London and have been seriously considering relocating to Norwich. We’ve visited several times and like the pace, the space, and the housing options. On our budget (£400–450k) we could get a good 3–4 bed there, whereas in London we’d be looking at a much smaller 3-bed in Ilford/Forest Gate and not in the areas we’d ideally choose (Leytonstone/Walthamstow). If budget weren’t an issue and we could afford a Walthamstow house, this wouldn’t even be a discussion.
Now that our children are 3 and 5, we’re getting back into London life — museums, theatres, general ease of days out. I’ve lived here all my adult life, so the city is familiar and practical.
Most of our friends have moved out of London or abroad, so our social circle is small either way. Starting again socially in our 40s is a consideration, but it’s already happening to some extent.
The decision basically comes down to two different lifestyles:
• smaller house but full access to London’s cultural/urban life, or
• more space, bigger garden, calmer pace, and countryside/coast access in Norwich.
For anyone who has made a similar move — either into London or out to a smaller city — I’d appreciate hearing your experiences:
• How and why did you decide which lifestyle suited your family?
• What were the biggest surprises after moving (good or bad)?
• If you moved in your 40s, how was rebuilding a social circle?
• Did your children seem to do better in one environment than the other?
Hearing real experiences from people who’ve faced this kind of choice would be really helpful.

Life outside London has also changed significantly in the past couple of decades. Obviously the internet has had a huge impact but also restaurants and food have improved to an unbelievable extent. We used to still go to London for special meals but no longer, we have a number of Michelin restaurants within easy huge and a huge array of fabulous gastropubs. We get sourdough and patisseries delivered warm to our doorstep and have some great farm shops near by.

I used to live near Norwich. It's a fantastic city with plenty of culture, although obviously the arts scene is not on a par with London. But I found I had the best of both worlds there. I would regularly go to Cambridge and London if I wanted extra enrichment and I loved being near the coast, particularly because most of the beaches are sandy unlike the south east. If you want any tips on where to live, do ask. There are some great schools but where you live can be important if you are doing state.

Once kids are at school and especially once they start having clubs at the weekend, the time for visiting museums and stuff is quite limited. If you're not going every week it does mean that living in close proximity is less important.

Another thing to consider is which parts of London you like to visit, as Norwich has good links to North and East London, but getting to South and West London is more of a faff.

Agree about the cultural scene there, a couple of friends live nearby.

Realise you’re asking ‘how did you decide?’

What was best for the children. Really that did mean me. If I’d stayed in London I would have become ill because of the feeling of not being able to move around easily with young children. Just too busy. Also I felt claustrophobic in London. Our house was too small.

I think we made the classic error and bought a house that was too big for our needs and my voluntary engagement with housework. I realised we could live more out of the house with access to differing landscapes - city, beach, forest. So we sold up and downsized. Win win!

I am a Londoner with family in Norfolk.

I loved having Dc in London and we used the museums, galleries, festivals, workshops, a huge range of free events all the time. I go to theatre and galleries all the time now. Because I liv here and can hop on public transport at a moments notice I can grab discount tickets and see great shows at affordable prices. For example,

We also used the excellent parks, Scouts, went out of London for camping and walking.

The Dc were independent on public transport from secondary age - this is a significant consideration, when I compare our lives with family who are heavily reliant on cars for almost everything..

They didn't do any more outdoor stuff than we did. They don't go frolicking along beaches in winter unless family are visiting.

Norwich is a culturally conservative town IME and the N&N (hospital) has taken 6 years to haul itself out of special measures and still 'requires improvement'.

But Norwich is an attractive town, good market and shops etc. Good Picturehouse cinema. The Sainsbury Centre. Maddermarket Theatre.

Personally if I could afford to stay in London I would.

But it's very much a personal choice.

yes please tell me about schools or any other information you have. At the moment I am looking at NR4 but some areas feel a bit far from the centre and far from amenities, and a friend told us to explore NR3 as 'up and coming'.

It would be amazing to be able to walk in but it seems like NR4 where we are looking, would not be possible to walk in (unless you want to walk for 45 mins) but we are also advised to look at NR3, which is closer to the centre and closer to the station.

i agree with everything and the idea of nature and activities sounds amazing, we work from home so we are okay. But the driving everywhere does not appeal to me at all, and one of the things I love about London is public transport. Obviously I do not love it enough to stay here, as I cannot afford a decent house in a decent London borough, hence I am thinking of Norwich.

If you live nearish the centre of Norwich you won't have to drive everywhere, although obviously getting to the coast is easier if you have a car. NR4 is further out but there are good cycle links into town and obviously buses. There are excellent schools there: City of Norwich School and Hethersett Academy. I am not up to speed with the property market so can't say whether NR3 is up and coming I'm afraid.

I don't know why a pp is saying Norwich is 'conservative' as if that is something that should put people off, but in any case it isn't true. It is not politically conservative and I wouldn't say it is culturally conservative either. There are a lot of middle-class professionals and arty types, as well as pockets of deprivation. It tends to vote for labour and green MPs/councillors. Wider Norfolk is culturally and politically conservative, apart from parts of South and North Norfolk which are also more 'arty'. So you can pick what you prefer if politics/culture matter to you.

I live near Sandringham. My DDs live in Norwich and I visit Norwich two or three times a week. It’s a beautiful medieval city. You can spend a day in the city, and experience so many different things: Quirky shops and cafes in The Lanes, Tudor buildings on and around Elm Hill, with cobbled streets. A huge outdoor market, gorgeous cathedral, Norman castle. You’ll have easy access to Liverpool St Station, less than two hours, half an hour max to the Norfolk broads, and forty minutes away from beautiful unspoiled beaches. Great pubs, theatres, restaurants and nightlife.

Schools are plentiful. Suggest you google the suburbs, then look at schools and read their Ofsted reports. Likewise properties, some suburbs are cheaper than others. If I was in your shoes I would look at NR1 first, the golden triangle, good schools, easy access to all amenities, including UEA and hospital. I’d then stay south of the city, Eaton, Cringleford. If you want to live out further from the city, Thorpe End, Salhouse and Wrexham are all good, with good schools. Do your research, spend a weekend, then you can make your decision.

Wroxham, not Wrexham, sigh at autocorrect!

I work in NR3 and it’s a lovely walk into the city centre.

I live 25 mins away (although more like 35 when the bloody roadworks at the airport were on!)
live towards the coast. I drive but it’s a great bus service between Cromer-Norwich.

I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else. We have beautiful countryside, great kids clubs where we are. Loads of outdoor stuff to do in the summer.

I’m a Walthamstowite so I would recommend here, but then again I appreciate it’s easier when I’ve been in the London housing market for best part of 20 years and now live in a four bed detached. I love it here, always loads going on, very happy with schools, really vibrant community. But I know housing is a big issue. And though I commute into town for work I very rarely go into town for cultural stuff these days - mainly spend my weekends doing outdoorsy things in Epping forest. So I can see the appeal of being somewhere where housing is cheaper and there’s lots to do outdoors. And with kids of 3 and 5 now is definitely the time to find a new place to settle down in and you’ll easily make school gate friends.

NR2 is very close to the city centre (walkable) and there are lots of Victorian terraces and very much a young family and quite trendy feel to it. I know people whose children have gone to The Avenues junior school and they are pleased with it (but do check specific catchment areas as there are a few schools which serve this area)

NR4 is quite a large area. Some parts off Newmarket Road are walkable to the city centre; others are in Cringleford, but there are buses every 10 minutes, so very accessible. Cringleford Junior school is also lovely. There's old cringleford (mainly large 1920s houses) and the newer estate with its own playground area/ playing field) which has been done quite sympathetically.

I don't know NR3, and some parts are a long way out. There are however some pretty houses on Constitution Hill.

Go spend some weekends in air b nbs in central Norwich / close to desirable schools / and further out.

in Norwich itself you can walk many places and they have a good bus service

go and do some trips to try it out.

you might love it!!!

It doesn't sound to me that you really want to leave london.. but I can see with 3 kids that housing budget is not great. Reading? Or move to a more happening city like Bristol or Brum?

If you want to give Norfolk a go, rent for a year, I am not convinced it's what you really want outside of holidays.

That’s so true. Just had a cousin visit from abroad, non stop whirl of museums, opera, walks. Probably won’t do that again until I get another visitor. These days it’s swimming pool, library, allotment if I’m in my own.

We moved to Norwich with young children and I’ve never regretted it. We live in NR2 (also known as the Golden Triangle) and it’s perfect for us. We walk and cycle everywhere - school and work. Our kids went to Recreation Road, then the Avenues, now at City of Norwich School. All decent state schools. There are lots of families in this area, great parks, lovely pubs and it’s a 15 minute walk to the city centre. In Norwich, there’s a lively cultural scene, gigs to go to, theatre, cinema etc. plus the coast is a 40 minute drive (or you can get the train). Also, lots of water sports on the broads - we do paddle boarding and kayaking, other friends are into sailing. Plus it’s easy and cheap to get to London. We spent last weekend there, and return train tickets for the 5 of us were £48 in total. We visit London regularly and I love it, but am always so pleased to return to good old Norwich! Good luck with your decision.

I agree. I live in the north of the city, which I do love, but if I was to move again, Id move to Hethersett or somewhere in the south. Just because the transport links to London are better but also its really nice! Its more expensive but not as expensive as Walthamstow! You wouldn't have to drive anywhere unless you wanted to drive into the countryside.

IMO an important question is where will you work, and how will you get there.

This is amazing, for our budget, all we are finding in NR2 is very narrow 2 bed terraces with steep staircases, you know it I am sure. I would ideally like something bigger, but they are rare and expensive. So this is why I am thinking of NR4 or NR3. I do not want to be too far away, as I do not want to drive all the time. It sounds lovely, I do think it will be good for us. My friend has a young baby and he goes to the Children's garden in NR4, which is a forest school but you have to drive as it's in the middle of nowhere. It would be so nice to live close to schools so our kids can walk there and back!

Visited Norwich recently compact, walkable, and surprisingly cultural with theatres and museums. Loved using a digital membership card for easy access to attractions. Houses are bigger and more affordable than London, with gardens and countryside nearby. Great for families, kids, and local activities. Feels calm, practical, and family-friendly, while still offering culture.

I grew up in Norfolk and studied in Norwich, lived in London for a while then moved to the Home Counties. I'm tired of paying over the odds just because I'm in commuter land - yes it's nice to visit London but I'm not sure it's worth the extra in house prices! I'm seriously considering a move back to Norwich - I visited recently and it's as lovely as when I lived there all those years ago.

I'm in a very different life stage to you OP but I'd choose Norwich in a heartbeat.

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/163491737#/?channel=RES_BUY

This is a nice area OP...probably a 15 minute walk to the city centre, but buses every 5 -10 minutes

To be honest, the market is sluggish at the moment (houses which sold for £1.2m now £950) , so if you are chain free, you're in a good position to make an offer in your price range.

This place has opened in Norwich since I lived nearby. It looks great:

https://theforumnorwich.co.uk/