London vs Norwich — choosing between two very different lifestyles. How did you decide?

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We’re currently renting in East London and have been seriously considering relocating to Norwich. We’ve visited several times and like the pace, the space, and the housing options. On our budget (£400–450k) we could get a good 3–4 bed there, whereas in London we’d be looking at a much smaller 3-bed in Ilford/Forest Gate and not in the areas we’d ideally choose (Leytonstone/Walthamstow). If budget weren’t an issue and we could afford a Walthamstow house, this wouldn’t even be a discussion.
Now that our children are 3 and 5, we’re getting back into London life — museums, theatres, general ease of days out. I’ve lived here all my adult life, so the city is familiar and practical.
Most of our friends have moved out of London or abroad, so our social circle is small either way. Starting again socially in our 40s is a consideration, but it’s already happening to some extent.
The decision basically comes down to two different lifestyles:
• smaller house but full access to London’s cultural/urban life, or
• more space, bigger garden, calmer pace, and countryside/coast access in Norwich.
For anyone who has made a similar move — either into London or out to a smaller city — I’d appreciate hearing your experiences:
• How and why did you decide which lifestyle suited your family?
• What were the biggest surprises after moving (good or bad)?
• If you moved in your 40s, how was rebuilding a social circle?
• Did your children seem to do better in one environment than the other?
Hearing real experiences from people who’ve faced this kind of choice would be really helpful.

I live in Norwich and go to London for something cultural about every six weeks. It can be done. I’d go more if the kids were up for it

London Borough of Redbridge .
Even my neck of the woods (Romford) is London Borough of Havering , I always think we're Essex

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Sorry I didn’t see the poster was looking to move to Ilford. I don’t really class that as London (although technically it is). But it’s easy to get in and out. My friends and I live Z2/3 so we probably do more London centric things.

Norwich is a lovely city and Norfolk in general a great place to live… you will have the coast within easy reach and also the Norfolk broads. It’s much quieter than probably you are used to but holds a special charm! Good luck to you OP on wherever you choose… lived in London and appreciate there is so much to do xx

Moved to Norwich from north London with teenagers. They love it here and have put down roots here, mid 20s and have bought property. We used to take them to London frequently. They have no urge to return or feel they have missed out.

I moved to North Norfolk from Islington in my late 30’s. Norwich was where I would shop and I loved the city and the area - still miss it. Beautiful place, loads to do and still pretty wholesome.

I struggle with this question regularly.

but have decided it’s too late for me to move now.

my kids are older and so I think I’d miss out on the social activities you get with younger kids, which leads you to making friends. They also have friends now.

i also think I take advantage of the cultural activities on offer.

your kids are the perfect age for you to embed yourself in the local community if you move to a smaller town
though.

and a small city would be great with a young family.

but things to consider- a quieter place isn’t so great for teenagers.

Do it do it do it do it!!! You won't regret it. Norwich is a lovely city and the pace of life is great. It's a no brainer.

Just think, OP - next time there is a sweltering summer, you can take the kids to the beach. Or go to the Norfolk Broads. Or chill in your garden...

There is so much to do outdoors in and around Norwich. It also has a great sports centre.

There are two cinemas that gets all the latest releases. There's a great theatre, as PPs said. The castle. And plenty of other places and things to do within a 30 min drive.

Farms, horses, cycling, rowing, kayaking, tennis, badminton... all very close.

ETA: It's also a university town (UEA) so gets plenty of life from that.

I think you will find the London has some of the best state schools in the country. I live in London but I was brought up in Norfolk and I do love Norwich.
Please bear in mind that Norfolk is a dental desert and that the hospitals in East Anglia are some of worst performing in the country. Particularly the Queen Elizabeth in King’s Lynn which is the worst.

Norfolk is a dental desert yes. Its massively annoying and most people go private ( of which there are plenty) but Kings Lynn is miles away from Norwich. . The closest hospital would be the Norfolk and Norwich which is a large teaching hospital with a good reputation. I'd rather go there than my old local hospital in London the North Mid.

Don’t know which choice you should make but I woukd say Norwich is a lovely city. Never lived there but have visited there a few times the past 4 years.

Norwich.
You’ll have space, a better quality of life and can settle into a community.

One hospital vs several hospitals with various specialities.

You might have heard of a nearby town with some specialist hospitals - an obscure little place called Cambridge 😆

As for nearby schools, Norwich is very walkable/cyclable. And far safer than London.

We moved from East London to Home Counties. Things I’d recommend really thinking about:

1. Is family a consideration, eg extended family, especially if you have older parents? May not be a consideration but it was for us.
2. Jobs and commuting. Will you need to travel back into London? Norwich is too far, especially when you consider the journey at either end of the train line.
3. Schools. What are your schooling options if you move elsewhere in London? Are there secondary options you’d be happy with?
4. Healthcare. Any healthcare needs that might not be easily met outside London?
5. Driving. Are you both confident drivers? Would you be happy to run one or potentially two cars?

Overall, we found schools better, medical facilities on a par (but we’re in a town and have to drive to a hospital), and it was impossible to operate without a car. We have a much nicer house than we would have had in London but the commute is more tiring than we anticipated (only 15 minutes longer but it makes a big difference).

We have found that while there are lots of people who’ve moved out of London, there are lots of locals who already have very established friendship circles. It’s not been as easy to make new friends as it was in London, even with school age children.

Is there a reason for choosing Norwich?

Norwich is a proper city. It’s different to moving to the commuter belt or the “Home Counties”. It has hospitals, lots of schools, public transport, things for teenagers to do. You do not need to drive unless you chose to live out in the country.

Culturally it’s obviously not going to compete with London, but being so isolated is an advantage because it does get a lot more touring acts than other similar size cities/towns as it is the main cultural hub of the area.

There's an airport in Norwich, as well. Really useful for Europe.

I moved to Norwich from London with young children. It’s a lovely city with five theatres including a puppet theatre, so in fact culture in that sense is easily and fairly cheaply accessible.
It has a few museums too, including the newly reimagined Norman castle, but obviously not to the same extent as London.
With children their age, you’ll make loads of friends and, (depending where you live) a large proportion will be ex Londoners and in your age group. Further out of Norwich/other areas, the mums could be younger.
In terms of state schools, I think there is less pressure ( from parents too) , so definitely not a hot house environment (which depending on your stance) could be a good or a bad thing!
The housing market is slow in Norwich at the moment, so you could get yourself a real bargain.

For me relocating is straightforward because I’m an active member of many craft groups and a gym so I just found all the new groups and joined them.
Different area will have slightly different groups so there is some need for flexibility but it works. It takes a while to make good friends in the new groups so keep going.

I lived in London for 28 years and moved away two months ago, though not to Norwich. The only thing I miss is the ease of public transport. The only annoying thing is the commute to London. My rent is cheaper, I have more space and the COL is cheaper (except for the £3 single bus fare).

I am having issues with connecting with my local community but I'm a shy introvert so this was always going to be difficult. If you have a more outgoing personality than me I imagine it would be easier to make friends. My oldest friend and my wider family live the next town over so I'm not without social contact entirely.

My new town is quite multicultural so honestly, I don't feel any different living where I am to where I used to in London. I can't say what Norwich is like.

There are two theatres here and a civic museum plus the place has an ancient history but it's location is the best thing about it. I'm in the South East Midlands so it's easy to find places to go for cultural and musical enrichment. The Shires have London things like gyms, coffee shops and gourmet burger joints too! Some Londoners think it's a desert for modern amenities but they are very wrong.

In terms of state schools, I think there is less pressure ( from parents too) , so definitely not a hot house environment (which depending on your stance) could be a good or a bad thing!
I was going to say this but I wasn't sure how to say it! I found the primary school far more laid back than the London one and I did like that at primary level but I do wonder if they arent pushy enough at secondary school level compared to London schools. But then again at my DC's London primary school kids were being tutored from aged 4 whereas I didnt know any primary school kids who were tutored here( some tutoring before GCSE etc) so if you still wanted to do that you could do. They're are lots of UEA students who tutor fairly cheaply.

I love Norwich airport! We once came back from Corfu and I booked a cab for an hour after the plane landed. We were through in 10 minutes!

Absolutely agree with this. We’re about to relocate with our eight-year old from our zone 5 London suburb to a market town near a university city. We’re both born and bred Londoners and for years very much made the most of the cultural opportunities here but since having DD we’ve found that journey times, hassle and what seem to be exponentially growing crowds make frequent theatre/gallery/museum trips nigh on impossible.

Recently it took us 2.5 hours to get home from the Science Museum due to a series of transport issues (terrible at weekends - we’re not that near a tube station and since the pandemic our local overground lines only run two trains an hour!). When we visited the British Museum in early autumn to visit the mummies (DD was learning about Ancient Egypt) the queues were four or five people deep and I spent the entire trip clinging on to her for dear life as other visitors kept barging her out of the way. Went to the Fitzwilliam Museum in Cambridge a few weeks later and saw way more stuff, despite it being much smaller - fewer crowds, calmer and space to breathe - DD even had a personal presentation from our of the curators there, who was an Egyptology PhD!

Friends of ours do very much have the ‘there’s no life outside London’ mindset, but post-kids many of them rarely ever venture into the centre nowadays or indeed leave our relatively far-flung and not very culturally impressive suburb. I’m in my 40s too and very much looking forward to exploring and putting down roots in a new, more community-focused area, so my vote would be for Norwich every time!

Yes I agree. If you can afford to live right in the middle of London its great but I hardly ever went into the city with young kids because by the time you get a buggy onto trains and tubes, avoid both rush hours, squeeze onto them while commuters give you dirty looks, trundle round museums and pay £15 or whatever on a travelcard for the privilege its just not worth it. We just stayed in our suburb with its one theatre and a high street but paying through the nose for being close to London. Now we whip in ( sometimes for £20 on the train) spend a day or weekend right in the centre of London and whip home again. Ds1 and his friends have done it quite often on their own and I do it approx every 2 months to see my friends and family.