Emotional ghosts

[woebetide8]

Do you believe that if bad things have happened in a house (abusive relationships, break-ins, to name but a few) that the house carries that kind of dark energy, or is it down to how we feel? When I leave the house, I feel better. I suppose I am talking about emotional ghosts in a house, and can you ever really excise them?

You could well feel better if you move. Cheaper options might be:

therapy to deal with emotions and trauma.

redecorating,

an intense deep clean.

declutter of stuff that pulls your mood down when you see it.

If you own the house or landlord is amenable, paint your front door a different colour (wait until spring for this one!)

Move your bedroom around if space allows

New bed and mattress

New bedding and get rid of the old stuff

I just read back and see I've cross posted.with OP and others. But we're thinking along same lines.

Get the remains of your ex out of the house. He has no say in things now. Decorate how you like, colours you like, items that you love. Make his choices history along with him.

Research has been done that indicate that certain physical conditions will increase anxiety. Lack of natural daylight is one, sound is another (not possible for the human ear to hear, but the vibrations have an effect.) We all know that our decor choices have an affect on how a room feels, so it does make sense.

Moving things around won't just change how things look but also how they sound. Even subtle changes, angling chairs differently, will change how sound echoes.

If you start changes at the entrance, you may find you feel different about your home from the moment you step in. Something which makes the entrance smell different, adding or moving a mirror, putting a rug down. These are all subtle changes but will affect how you sense your home.

Redecorating can definitely make huge changes. My DH grew up in a house that is offered as part of a job. A friend of his got that job about 8 years later after he left. Nothing about the layout or physical features changed in the house (except a tree falling outside by the door, which was removed), but redecoration in the person's preferred style left it genuinely almost unrecognisable. The sound and 'flow' of light or noise - yes, that must have played a good part in it.

I dont disagree with any of that. I dont think we have 'souls' or anything else that survives after death. We are the unique pattern of neurons firing in our brains and when that stops we are gone; forever

Yes. It is something triggered in the brain, a combination of the primal survival system and previous 'firing patterns' perhaps - neurons that fire together wire together and all that so if a house feels 'off', something (decor, pattern of light, smell, whatever) fires a neuron and this causes another neuron (associated with fear or trauma) to fire.

One of the ways we can change this firing pattern or break an association is by getting it to fire while considering it and wanting it to change. Having a smudging ritual would be one way of doing this. Therapy would be another

ooh, I've never heard about magnetism being a trigger, i'll try and find out more. Neurons are electric and electrical and magnetic fields affect each other so it's not far fetched

Along with redecorating and really putting your stamp on the house as yours, I would do a cleansing ritual with sage. Have a look online at how to do it, or maybe you could hire somebody. I definitely believe that emotions can be stored in houses. I have an example that I felt when a friend showed me her dad's car in the barn, and then she told me that the barn used to be used to slaughter farm animals.