Emotional ghosts

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Do you believe that if bad things have happened in a house (abusive relationships, break-ins, to name but a few) that the house carries that kind of dark energy, or is it down to how we feel? When I leave the house, I feel better. I suppose I am talking about emotional ghosts in a house, and can you ever really excise them?

You can smudge* a house to remove bad energy

• wave around a smouldering stick of sage dont forget to disable any smoke alarms first

It's psychological. Get some therapy and that will help with the feelings.

Yes. I do think strong emotions can leave traces. You could smudge/bless the house and see if that helps how you feel?

100% I believe houses carry feelings from the past

Yes a house can absorb sadness from the past. I have a relative that lives in a house where 5 members of a family were murdered/ suicide. Even though it happened many years ago I still feel the house feels sad.

There can't be many houses over about five years old in the UK that haven't had SOMETHING bad happen in them ever. Until forty years or so ago it was quite common for people to die at home, domestic abuse, mental illness, financial impecunity etc have always happened. I think the trick would be to find a house that's never had anything bad go on in it.

Nope, I don’t believe it at all. Is it possible you just don’t like being in the house? Is it dark or dingy? Needs updating? Or is it devoid of character or your possessions? Have you had good experiences in the home?

Theres no such thing as bad energy that remains in the house when people leave.

Yes if the bad thing(s) happened to you in that house. Memories and emotions can be felt physically as well as mentally. Therapy will help, but sometimes unfortunately you just have to move. There is no shame in leaving the past behind

I think buildings and spaces can have a negative energy or feel. I don't know why though. I think it's probably due to environmental factors we pick up.

Just hire a good exorcist.

I love and feel most comfortable really old houses (like 500+ years old) so the chances that bad things have happened in them are very high. So for me I don't think that holds.

Of course they don’t, how would that even work?

Yes l believe this. Definitely try the cleanse. Did you not sense it when you viewed?

I'm gobsmacked by the number of people who think there's something in this. What's the mechanism for the house "storing" emotions? Seriously, how does that even work?

There are some really interesting scientific studies about stimulating part of the brain so that someone feels like something spooky has happened or that they can sense "spirits" - but it's all brain signals.

You might struggle to live in a house where bad stuff happened to you, but it's not the bricks and mortar, it's your psychological state.

That said, placebo is very powerful so if you believe a bit of sage will help give it a go. If that doesn't work try therapy. If that doesn't work, move.

well my take is that just because we (ie current science) cant explain the mechanism behind a possible phenomenon doesnt mean that it isnt real.
Current science cant explain the mechanism behind several aspects of magnetism for example but they are real and observable.

Do you have any links to the 'inducing spooky brain' studies? I'd be interested in reading them.
attempting to apply science to woo woo is an interesting area

btw The woo woo answer to your question is 'energy' - the emotions are 'energy' that is stored in the house. sadly, this is not the same energy that i learned about in physics class

I have had some therapy re. the abusive relationship some years ago. I just wonder if a house reminds you of bad times if you can ever truly overcome that feeling every time you put the key in the door.

Move
That's worked for me

I think the 'ghosts' are in us. Quite subtle things will trigger memories and emotions: colours, smells, the position of a curtain or a cushion.

Cleansing a home of those triggers might help. A really deep clean, changing curtains (or even getting them cleaned and re-hanging them in different rooms), moving or changing furniture. All may help to make a home feel different.

When I viewed I didn't feel any sense of negativity. That stuff has happened since I've owned it. I am trying to work out if moving will change anything; if it will feel "better" or not change anything at all.

I do wonder about that, because when I've viewed some houses to buy I get a really bad vibe in them. Not often, over the years just one or two that have given me the real creeps? This current house didn't though, but it does now....

Hmm OK normally if shits going down my spider senses let me know straight away. What kind of stuff?

So maybe there are other things going on that are impacting you that may have a bearing?

@GwenPost sure, science still can't explain everything but it strikes me as unlikely that the reason that people see ghosts is because there we have souls which survive death and float around. More likely something in the human brain (related to survival such as the visual and fear system) is triggered for some as yet unknown reason (magnetism is actually a suggestion) - Occam's razor.

Similarly a house feeling 'off' is far more likely to related to an individual's psychological state of mind (whether triggered by trauma or, more prosaically, bad decor) than it is to be some new undiscovered way in which human and human action imprint on the world. We're too insignificant for the laws of physics to change for us.

Well to consider that the planet has had an estimated 117 billion people ever existed, then its pretty impossible to go anywhere where there would not be a an large possy of emotional ghost chilling out 😂.

Even if you seriously believe that crap how come this would only affect humans (yes we are still only one of many many species and also sentient ones) which is quite frankly insulting to both science and logic as it would surely enough include all species. In which case you could not possibly move an inch without bumping into one of these ghosts.

Yes its a load of claptrap.

A friend said "redecorate, with happy colours, especially the colour of the front door" the idea being that it feels like a different house from when I enter it. It is quite bland inside, which was the abusive exes choice, not mine. Does redecorating change the feel of a place that much?

It absolutely does! Research dopamine colour. It's a big trend at the moment.