We Shouldn’t Have Moved

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We moved into our house almost five months ago, and as gorgeous as it is on paper, with a spectacular south facing garden, we are just not happy here and I can’t get over that this is probably the biggest mistake we have ever made . The location is lovely and the neighbours have been more than welcoming and friendly. The house itself needs a few things upgrading and we’re getting through them bit by bit so it has been quite stressful with contractors coming and going, but it’s coming together. We just can’t work out why it’s actually making us sad to be here. Talking tonight with my husband about it, after weeks of me bottling it up and trying to put on a cheerful face, he admitted he feels the same. When we viewed back in November we both fell in love with the place, hence we bought it, but now we’re having massive regrets and wished so much we hadn’t seen it on Rightmove and that we were still living in our previous house.
Has anyone been in this situation too? I have written a similar thread in the last few months to ask the same thing and so many people replied to say they had felt the same but now loved their homes, and that I should give it time. I’ve moved many times in my 62 years, but have never felt this way before about a house. As I say, on paper it’s perfect and to the outside world I am so lucky but I can’t snap out of this sadness.

Can anyone give me some tips please, other than to sell it and move on?

I’ve bought a sage bundle today and some Palo Santo wood. I’m not sure how to do the whole smudge process, I suppose just light it, then blow it out so it’s smoking and then walk through the whole house with it? I’ll take a look on YouTube to make sure I do it right. Then will take a look what to do with the wood sticks too.
Regarding familiar scents, I’ve always got a wax burner going of how our old house smelled.

Off topic of smells, we had a chap come to measure for carpet fitting today and he said “ what a beautiful house this is”. I felt so stupid that here I am in a house that everyone seems to love and I’m fecking moaning. I have to get a grip!

If ever you want a Farrow and Ball colour have it mixed. I go to a Crown decorators centre, they actually own Farrow and Ball. They use a Crown base colour and mix whatever colour you want, so much cheaper and easier to apply.

As for not feeling comfortable I was the same for at least a good 5 years, I really regretted moving. We live on a lovely Close, great neighbours in a detached house, but I felt no connection. We had lived in our previous house for 20 years with lots of lovely memories, bringing our daughter up there, we’re still in the same village. I felt that the house loved us.

In our current house there was an uncomfortable vibe, I felt this and it was noisy. Ornaments flew off the shelf, loud noises woke us up in the night, ornaments flew out of the bedroom window, we all witnessed it. Strangely we weren’t frightened, just bloody annoyed. One day it was banging on my dining room table so loud that all 3 of my dogs were on tenterhooks, I lost it. I walked into the dining room and went berserk, shouting at it to stop as it was freaking the dogs out. I’ve never heard anything since. I certainly wasn’t woo woo minded until I witnessed all of this, it was most strange.

We don’t know what/who it was. One night in bed an almighty bang woke us up, it sounded as if the wardrobe had fallen over. Or we’d hear tapping on the wall between us and the spare room. One night it sounded as if someone was dragging something along the floor in the loft. As for the ornaments flying off the shelf, that was spooky. No one has ever died in the property, I can’t explain it and wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t witnessed it. My neighbour was a vicar and I was going to ask her to bless the house. She said that she’d done it quite a few times and the church even did exorcisms, spooky.