It's 1.30am & I'm lying in bed listening to a party that I may as well be at.

[Tolkienista]

I've posted in the past about my paper thin walls in my semi - detached house. I've lived here since 2019 and had an elderly neighbour with dementia who used to have her TV on full volume.
New neighbour (moved in 6 weeks ago) must be having a get together with friends, horrendous noise...... laughing, high jinks, music, really loud chatting and me lying in bed with my ear plugs in and thinking.......I may as well be there, it's all coming through our shared wall. Sadly, I've got a house with paper thin walls and someone who is still partying as we head towards 2am.

Rant over, I just needed to get that all out as sleep is not on the horizon at the moment.
Thank you if you've got this far.

Have your local authority you a noise nuisance phone line? Some do and definitely worth phoning them whilst the party is ongoing so they can hear in the background!

I sympathise - I live in a terrace house with thin walls. I know ear plugs make no difference. Hopefully your neighbours are decent and will realise this is not acceptable on a regular basis.

@LovesFood1987 honestly don't know about that.
It's also a bit awkward, he's divorced and has his kids one week on, one week off. This is obviously his one week off.
I've taught all three of his children and worked with his ex wife. So I don't particularly want any confrontation.

@Notcontent thanks for your kind comment, I don't think it will be regular, but I guess it will happen again.
Since he moved in this is the worst night. It's just got louder and louder since @ 10pm. I'm sure they've been drinking, but I'm beyond sleep now in all honesty.

I would give him until 230 then politely knock and let him know that’s enough. If he doesn’t stop the noise call the non emergency police line.

Whenever our neighbour has a loud party/ pissed up argument or both . The next morning we play Prodigy's Fire starter on repeat really loudly while we take the dog out for a walk . Guaranteed to make their hangover just a bit more chuckelicious 😁

Since you sort-of know him, can you have a non confrontational chat tomorrow, when the party is over and he'll probably be feeling 'the fear' with a hangover and therefore be more compliant?

If it doesn't work and this becomes a regular thing, you cab take a harder line - involve external parties .

@Somewhereoverthersinbowweighapie in the last few minutes it sounds a lot quieter, so I think the worst is over. It's now after 2am, so I'm going to log off and call it a day.

Thanks everyone for your comments, really appreciate your help.

@Wiccan I once read on a forum someone had a neighbour that would be out gardening with a lawn mower and leaf blower at 7 am every sat and sun. They asked several times for them to be quiet until 8-9 but was ignored. The person found an old cd player and a celine dion cd and played the power of love on repeat outside until the sun went down.

I hope you’re asleep by now, but a suggestion for future parties! Have you tried white noise? I have an app on my phone and use it all the time. I live in a small house with a lot of people and once I turn that thing on, I rarely hear a thing!

🤣🤣🤣 I bet another neighbour were in bed 7.am saying " do you know what if I tilt my head just a bit and close my eyes , I swear that mower sounds just like Celine Dion "! .

I'd be more annoyed about not being invited round than the noise tbh.

If it happens again in a couple of weeks, just grab a bottle and go around, and if you are not immediately welcomed in, just ask if he can at least have the decency to STFU 😐

I did log off in the thought it was all over, I was wrong..... it's now 3.25 am and it's worse than ever, I've not slept a wink and guess it's just going to go on and on.

I just feel totally disrespected and something I would never ever do. You buy a semi detached house, you have to consider your neighbour.

Don't know how I'm going to deal with this tomorrow, just so so so fed up with it all.

@Lizzieregina I had white noise on my phone at midnight could still hear the racket on top.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, it could be a housewarming party. If it happens again, have a word.

Oh, and next time you go out for a day or away for a weekend, put your speakers against the wall, crank it up and put Black Box's Ride On Time on repeat.

It is annoying but I wouldn't say the end the world if it is a one off. Headphones in and make the best of it

So to sign off on this, it finished just before 4am, the house fell silent. I quickly fell asleep and woke just after 8 this morning.
I feel disappointed especially as part of the first conversation I had with him was around how thin the wall is on our joint wall, but as some have said it could be a one off party and I don't really want any confrontation with him.

Thanks again for being with me during the night, never felt so down.

Maybe a polite note would work if you want to avoid confrontation?

If you intend to stay look into sound proofing? Plasterboards are a cheap option for sound proofing

I’d say something. Even if it’s just to ask to be told if they’re planning any more all-night parties so you can make plans to spend a night elsewhere because of the noise.

How loud can your speakers go? I'm sure he'd appreciate a nice concert for his hangover this morning.

Just kidding, you do need to talk to him about it.

Brilliant. I'm a life long fan

Why don't you throw in Smack my b$&@h up for good measure next time too lol

I'd definitely nip this in the bud. Catch him to say you didn't get any sleep. If it's a one off he will understand. We had a nightmare neighbour like this and just wish we had tackled him earlier on as it just happened more frequently. It's horrible- you have my sympathy!

I agree with those saying that you should speak to him. If you say nothing he will assume that it's fine with you and it will happen again. It can be done in a friendly way, especially as you know him / his family. Even if it was a one-off, he should have warned you beforehand, and the fact that he didn't shows that he either doesn't care or didn't think of it, so he needs to be told, politely, that it's not on.

Thanks for all the further comments.......he's not around to speak to at the moment, but as others have said I think I do need to say something & I definitely couldn't go through another night like that. It's the not knowing when it's going to end that kills you, once it got to 3am I honestly thought it's just going to go on and on til dawn.

I do think he's inconsiderate, especially as we'd already had the conversation about noise when I first met him. I do feel awkward about our connection over his kids. They're back next Friday so at least that should be a quiet weekend.
Just can't get inside his head to see how he thought that was acceptable, it was inescapable noise til just before 4am.

It's been so quiet this morning...... absolute bliss