Aaaargh!!! I could literally scream!!!

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My DH is an arsehole. I’ve literally been packing the house up for weeks. I went to work last night and he asked if he could do anything to help whilst I was away…. Ok I said, clear the grocery cupboard ( also has drinks in it)
Thought he couldn’t really go wrong but the ONE box he previously packed was over-full therefore had a big lump in it and no longer stackable. So I came home this morning to find yet another box with a big lump in it, I’ve opened it to find this.
I’m close to tears.

I feel your pain!

He's doing it so badly you won't ask for more help.

At this moment I actually hate him! I’m so stressed with everything, I’ve arranged the movers, no easy feat with completion on 30th. Contacted all utilities etc. The SKY is in his name so asked him to contact them. Off he goes with his phone… no account number, no new address postcode, no pen…. Aaaargh I need to calm down or else I’m gonna have a fucking stroke

I don't understand how these successful competent men cope at work and then expect us to believe they are absolute morons outside at home. Jokes on us...

Those bottles need keeping op. The pink one and clear one the same - string of lights and some festive ribbons!!

Oh and that’s my expensive (by my standards) Chapeldown gin on the top….

Is this the moment where you sit him down and say “we are moving. What are you going to contribute to that?” It might also be time to consider paying the movers to pack to. From what I remember, it wasn’t much more expensive, and sooo much more convenient.

@Brollywasntneededafterall cross post! Yes they’re nice aren’t they?

I had a very stressful house move where full responsibility for everything was on me. Ex DH just existed in blissful ignorance and left it all to me as "you're good at all that". It's one of the many resentments that caused me to leave. Good luck with the move.

@Thumbcat that’s exactly the response I get!! I’m living with a manchild. In fact I feel like I’m the man… I don’t want to be the man!

@AttaGirrrrl it’s to late for that I’m almost done but would definitely consider it in future

Well clearly he needs to repack that box and find another for the excess bottles. Tell him that. Also, why is he asking you if there is anything he can do to help? Is he not moving with you? Is it just your stuff being packed?

I don't understand how these successful competent men cope at work and then expect us to believe they are absolute morons outside at home. Jokes on us...

Haha yes this!!! If my ex was the slightest bit as incompetent at work as he was at home he would surely have been sacked. But now I’m thinking…maybe they are also shit there and their female colleagues mop up all that mess too?

Honestly, book the removal company to pack for you. It will be the best money you will ever spend during a move, and a drop in the ocean compared to everything else.

They supply all the packing materials too, so factor that in.

I did this.

For a few hundred pounds I would save myself the stress and book a packing company.

SweetBaby yes they probably are crap or lazy at work as well. Male entitlement is quite astonishing

@ShaunaTheSheep and @3WildOnes honestly if I wasn’t already nearly finished I would consider it now ( having had a bit of the ick red people going thru my stuff).

@MrsRobbieHart haha we are definitely moving together not that you’d know it. When I exploded this morning and screamed he’d better get another box he replied that we can’t just keep filling more boxes as the removal people wouldn’t cope and he will put that particular box in the car. This is despite me booking 2 separate vans from different companies ( needs must due to limitations)

@Brollywasntneededafterall thats brilliant!!

When we moved, we solved this issue by me doing absolutely all the packing, and OH doing everything else. 😁

@BeautifulandWilfulandDead did you trust him to do it properly?
See now I’m wondering if I’m a control freak?!

@SweetBabyCheeses99 I’m bloody sure he lays in the helpless card at work too… for reference a school driver with mostly female staff around

What does he mean, you can't keep filling more boxes as the removals company won't cope? It's what they do. Move all the packed boxes. Packing to move is never fun. Well, it was fun at the start, the thought of a new home, but after a while it's dull. It's much better when everyone is on board and gets on with it, properly, and gets it done.

Yes @longtompot I agree it would be easier if everyone pulled their weight. I think he’s just worried re capacity tho I’ve decluttered loads, tip runs, charity runs, scrap collection etc