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feeling tearful about our new house/area

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hiuhgs201 · 13/08/2021 14:13

FTB just about to move into our new house but feeling really upset. Originally we looked at nice flats in naice parts of London with good secondary schools. But then the lockdown happened and one of my friends was really persuasive that we should buy a house and we ended up buying a big house in SELondon without really knowing the area, secondary schools are not great and now am back to scouring rightmove and trying to figure out how quickly we can move again. Not sure whether it's buyer's regret, or Covid or......something else.

The house is great but the area is quiet and residential, we don't really know anyone there (moving from central London), will have to move for secondary schools (eldest is 4), both sets of grandparents are on the other side of London and am panicking that we've done the wrong thing.

Anyone else been in that position? What did you do? Feeling really tearful and sad before we've even moved into our new place.

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moveblues · 15/08/2021 14:59

Yes!!! See my posts... you'll see lots of replies there. We have decided to move on!

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hiuhgs201 · 16/08/2021 10:36

@moveblues thank for pointing out your thread.really interesting reading.How quickly did you end up moving? And are you happy in your new place?

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Gophering · 16/08/2021 10:47

Just adding to everyone else’s posts to say it’s a great area. I don’t think the secondary schools are that bad. Primaries are v good. Plenty of lovely people. Great transport connections.

senua · 16/08/2021 10:50

In what world is having your family home in a "quiet and residential" area a bad thing?
Is there some joke that I'm missing.

Brimorion · 16/08/2021 10:56

@senua

In what world is having your family home in a "quiet and residential" area a bad thing? Is there some joke that I'm missing.

It’s boring as fuck when you’re used to living in a city centre. At least in my experience and I assume the OP feels similarly.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 16/08/2021 10:58

Sydenham Girls (the state secondary, not the private school) is absolutely excellent. People are moving to Sydenham specifically for that school.

It's very easy to get to North London on the overground from Forest Hill. Train stops at Dalston, Highbury & Islington etc. The train connections are brilliant in the area (people mistakenly think that if there's no tube you can't get anywhere, which is just not the case).

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hiuhgs201 · 16/08/2021 12:32

Honestly, I just don't know what to think. My first thought is 'Where are the people?' But as a PP said just give it three months and then think about moving if I still hate it. We couldn't really afford to buy where we lived as it's very very expensive even for London but we did have friends and family within 5mins walk which was great. Here we have a lovely house but at the moment not much else. God house buying is stressful and emotional

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Gophering · 16/08/2021 15:37

When do you move in? Go up to Hornimans, it’s always busy there and there’s a mini golf place up there at the moment which is fun. The museum is brilliant for kids and they always having special exhibitions etc. What primary school will your DC be going to?

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hiuhgs201 · 16/08/2021 17:25

@Gophering we are moving now and hoping DD will start at one of the local schools. Eliot Bank was our first choice but have to see whether they have places. As everyone said, it's probably just nerves and getting used to a new area. We were debating whether we care about the house or location and went for the house. I guess only time will tell whether we were right

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Usernamenotavailabletryanother · 17/08/2021 00:28

I feel for you OP- I moved four stops down the tube line from zone 1/2 to zone 3 and I felt like I’d fallen off the edge of the earth 😂

I totally understand what you mean by ‘where are all the people?’ It took me about a year to get used to that one. I still miss the buzz, but buying a house in zone 3 means that I can visit the buzz any time I like. Had we stayed, we couldn’t have afforded to buy anything within the m25. Moved here three years ago and already couldn’t afford it if we were moving now.

My kids are older than yours, and we are so, so glad we have a house now. We would have been busting at the seams in our old flat. They are settled in schools, have friends on our street and have more independence than they might have had in our old area.

You are missing your network and your community, and it takes time to build up another one- but moving a bit further out means that once you do, it’s likely to be more stable and less transient. All of my kids’ friends from our old area have now moved away, most out of London altogether.

It will take time to get used to, expect tears and angst for quite some time if you are anything like me- but it sounds like it’s a brilliant move all round. Good luck

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