OP I totally agree with you on the shaker style doors and grot in the corners. It's not so noticeable on oak doors, but it soon shows on white and cream. I have fixed, updated, ripped out, and installed countless kitchens over the years in my job. The bits that collect grot are the above mentioned, on and around handles, and the cornice, so if you are wanting an easy to clean kitchen it's worth bearing that in mind. I've also noticed the super-matt painted doors are worse for showing greasy finger prints than gloss is for looking smeary (and DCs love leaving greasy fingerprints!).
My kitchen is 4 years old, and I went for cream flat gloss with a machined-in top groove to open them, as ease of cleaning was high up my list. The groove also gets grotty, but it takes seconds to wipe it out. Cleaning around handles can be a fiddle. Cream is classic, and 'fashionable' colours can be painted (and easily changed) onto the surrounding walls. Similarly, splashbacks and tiles can easily be updated with the fashions if the doors and tops are classic and neutral.
I chose a warm mid grey quartz for the top. I found that the hardest choice. I'm not a grey fan, but wanted something neutral. Black was out after seeing my DM's battles with the smears, white was no good with cream, wood would get ruined too quickly. So grey was left. I would say I like it, but don't love it. I would have wood in an ideal world where my kitchen stayed as pristine as when new.
I agree with the PPs that say to pick a kitchen that you like and fits your (not wanting to scrub corners with a toothbrush) needs, rather than fashion. If not dating is important to you, go neutral.