DH calling me a snob for wanting to move

[nellyii]

We have been looking for a house for approx 18 months before covid kicked off my DH earns 6 figures I've also had quite a big pay rise. Approx budget 425k 100k deposit as DH wants to rent this one out so that's without selling also have another 80k equity in another BTL . He wants a double garage good sized garden we live in our first house which is a 3 bed ex local authority it's ugly and we bought it 6 years ago for 133k.
I'm getting really sick of him being so picky the choice now isn't half of what it was. Prices are climbing our last offer was down valued and DH refused to meet half way . I'm just sick of it he won't move out and rent somewhere nicer we have a lot of disposable income.

When I bring it up he calls me a snob is it snobby to want to live somewhere that reflects our earnings?

Do you want to live somewhere that reflects your income so people know how much your earn, or do you want a nicer, bigger house in a nice area with bigger garden/a garage/a downstairs loo etc? One is a bit ‘TA-DA’, one is completely understandable, and what we all do as we climb the property ladder.

Anyway, renting is daft, wait until this lockdown lifts and lots of houses will be listed. He might need to stop being so picky, though. If you can find a house in 18 months (and you are looking in the right price bracket) you need to ask yourself what’s going on.

OP, I understand, our income has increased massively and I’m now open to looking at next level up in terms of a new home. I too drive a battered car and am sitting here in my supermarket bought clothes.

The earnings change has kind of opened my eyes to a new way of living, literally. I want a nice view, nice bathrooms, better location etc I don’t that’s snobbery. Incidentally it’s my earnings that have improved.

You mention keeping your current home, renting it out, have you considered tax implications? Also stamp duty on 2nd property? I wanted to do the same and friends have told me not to.

Go get your new homes ladies

@Pebbledashery

I don't think you're snobby for wanting what you want.. But how you phrased it came across as incredibly snobby.

This.

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@Blinky22

I don't think you can call wanting to spend 425k on a house snobby. That's nothing.

And the award for most snobby comment goes to..... 425k isn't "nothing". It's a lot of money. it's true it won't get you much in many parts of the country, but in some areas it's certainly enough for a substantial house... with room for a pony.

I don't think you sound snobby at all OP, as I know EXACTLY what you mean.

We currently live in a not great area, and are just finishing preparing our lovely house to go on the market. Looking at potential properties, I would like to move to a nicer area, which as a consequence will reflect our income, as you wouldn't be able to buy there now, unless you earn a decent salary.

This means we'll be purchasing a higher value house which will most likely be slightly smaller than our current one. To make up for this, I'm looking for a semi with an attached garage that can be converted into utility, study and playroom downstairs, and 2 bedrooms and an extra bathroom upstairs.

When we bought in the not so great area, we had pulled together a decent deposit, had just had DC, and had had to buy a new car. Now, we've had substantial payrises, secure jobs and no debt.

In the area I want to move to, our mortgage will go up by 50%, but will then represent only 17% of our combined net monthly income. DH is panicking because he feels we should continue living in the not great area, so as not to overstretch ourselves. Not sure where the compromise will come from on our case...

@CellophaneFlower

that post was ignored for being attention seeking 🤣