In case it helps...
Alu clad windows are about 10-15% more expensive than straight timber (provided you are having same colour inside and out).
Triple glazing is 10-15% more expensive than double glazing and is not always necessary.
PVC windows are considerably cheaper again though I don't know how much as that was not something we were willing to consider.
You can get quotes for Velux online where you can specify all the details of your velux (rooflight configurator)... very helpful. Velux themselves told me that it would be cheaper from a local supplier/partner and it is, by quite a bit. Don't underestimate framing and fitting though... even the cheaper velux will probably cost you £1k each when you consider fitting.
Windows were the area we were absolutely unwilling to compromise on (we have a lot of them).
Our main contractors quotes for plastering/taping and painting were considerably more than we were quoted by individuals. This will of course be the case for most things as he marks up sub contractors but the saving on paint in particular was so considerable that we can now afford to have it done (which is great as we'll have a brand new baby (3rd DC) when it needs to be done). I am also comfortable outsourcing this as it is the end of the chain so no chance of delaying builder if scheduling isn't perfectly aligned.
The only other thing we are outsourcing is the plumbing of the existing house because it is complicated. We've found the quotes for the new boiler and water tank are quite comparable but there was a massive difference in the quote for water treatment/pump/tank where the private water specialist was half the price of the plumber.
Flooring (supply only) is anything from £10 sqm (cheap cheap laminate) to £75 sqm (top range Amtico LVT) and you can still go +++ over that. Fitting will normally be at least £15 sqm.
Choice of worktops will make a massive difference to cost of kitchen. Laminate approx £40 per m, wood £100-£200 per m, Quartz £400 per m.
Internal fittings (i.e. drawers) cost more than the units themselves. Though I personally think this is worth it and will have almost exclusively pan drawers.
You can posh up an ikea kitchen with 'bespoke' doors... superfronts, naked kitchens and foxstow seem to be main companies in UK. Though I think Ikea may have serious supply issues at the moment.
I think the biggest 'extra' cost is always changes. Our build has been delayed by covid (planning took ages and now every trades person is insanely busy) but it has meant I have made nearly all the decisions up front which will hopefully allow me to avoid expensive changes during the build itself.
I'm sure most of this is bleedingly obvious to most of you who are already neck deep in all of this, but just in case.