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Are the Cornish really that unwelcoming/unfriendly?

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semidetached3 · 30/10/2020 20:27

DH and I are facing a very uncertain future due to the pandemic and as a result, we've decided to sell our house in the south east and massively downsize, to be mortgage free and provide ourselves with a few years of income.

It's been a highly stressful year and we just need a completely fresh start in a new place where we can begin again.

We've always wanted to live by the sea and both love Cornwall. We would like to live within a town ideally or possibly a village, as long as it has amenities.

However, I've been put off after searching Mumsnet and reading numerous posts from people saying how unfriendly the Cornish are to newcomers, and that you'll never be truly accepted or make friends unless your family have lived there for generations.

I was wondering - is this really the case? We have a young son (not yet school age) so he'd be starting primary school down there. Is it possible to make friends or would we be permanently excluded as newcomers to the area?

Also, we wouldn't want to live anywhere where the vast majority of houses are holiday lets and there's no real community (I'm wondering if St Ives, as beautiful as it is, might fall into this category).

Thanks for reading.

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XingMing · 07/11/2020 20:34

Crackofdoom is closer to describing the reality of everyday working class life in Cornwall than anyone else here. In the next village to me, there is an epic drug problem with blacked out window cars in the car park late at night. The town four miles away is Cornwall's heroin capital. Our nearest city, Plymouth, has a glorious location and a proud history, as well as some of the most deprived council wards in the UK... places where children with toothbrushes are considered above average.

Badgerbadger22 · 07/11/2020 21:18

For those lovelies who live in Falmouth - how do you guarantee not ending up next to students? I am from Falmouth and want to move back as we both work there. DH says no.

(Full disclaimer: when I was a student I was quiet but lived with 3 noisy guitar playing blokes who frequently pissed off the neighbours)

semidetached3 · 07/11/2020 22:23

In the next village to me, there is an epic drug problem with blacked out window cars in the car park late at night.

I live in a rough area currently so this sort of thing is nothing new to me.

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semidetached3 · 07/11/2020 22:25

Oh yes, and St. Just is...weird, wild and wonderful. Would definitely suit you if you were alternative- leaning

Weird, wild and wonderful sounds good!

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jambeforeclottedcream · 07/11/2020 22:44

Not at all! We are a very welcoming bunch SmileSmileSmile

jambeforeclottedcream · 07/11/2020 22:46

FWiW Penryn school has a really good reputation

jambeforeclottedcream · 07/11/2020 22:47

@XingMing

Watch BBC2 tomorrow (Sunday) at 8.10 pm for a look at Cornwall, warts and all.
Yes looking forward to this. Be interesting Simon Reeve take on Cornwall. As he's normally goes to paradise places and exposes the grittier side of it
Audreyseyebrows · 07/11/2020 22:47

Not at all true! We welcome to Cornwall !

Muchadoaboutlife · 08/11/2020 03:10

Following with interest as we love Cornwall but are just a bit too scared to make the move. We’d look at Truro until kids finished school and do Truro High School. Does anyone have any experience of that school?

OKalright · 08/11/2020 07:29

I live in a new build development, in Redruth.

If I think of 8 neighbours that I see come & go every day,

1 are Bulgarian
1 are Romanian & good friends of ours.
1 are Polish.
2 are from the Midlands
2 are Cornish
1 are Londoners

We are not Cornish. No one cares Smile

We do care about our neighbourhood though and say hello to eachother/get shopping/help fix fences/moan about the weather.

TheTeaFairy · 08/11/2020 07:42

I moved to West Cornwall (PZ) a few years ago and have found most people very welcoming. Things that have helped us integrate: our DS went to sixth form here; joining local sports groups; volunteering locally.

From PZ to London on the train is around five hours. We have a lot of visitors… no risk of feeling cut off!

Loads more info to impart - will PM you Smile

semidetached3 · 08/11/2020 10:32

Thanks so much @TheTeaFairy - yes please do!

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XingMing · 08/11/2020 13:35

@muchado, I went to THS such a long time ago that my experience is irrelevant, but I returned a few years ago for a reunion, and went to a couple of A level classes, and thought the standard of teaching was as good or better.

thegcatsmother · 09/11/2020 00:38

Xing Are we ever going to grab a drink down at the Quay before the weather closes in and I start work?

XingMing · 09/11/2020 09:17

Yes, GCat, Tuesday, Wednesday or Friday morning or any afternoon any week, as long as I don't get called in to do jury service, which is supposed to start today!

Breadandroses1 · 09/11/2020 09:27

It's a mixed bag and all the villages have different characters and are more/less open to 'incomers'. I'm expatriated now but grew up on the south coast.

If you're interested in St Just have a look at the Guardian website at the moment, there's a short film called The Daisy Chain on their response to C19.

Can you settle and integrate and have a nice life? Yes, you can especially if you get very involved with community stuff. Will you be considered 'local'? No, but that may well not be a problem for you.

Check schools carefully, secondaries are spread thinly and you will find it hard to move if they don't work, transport is limited.

Have you spent much time there in the winter? It rains a lot, and the Dec-April period feels very long!

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