@allington I think you have missed the point of my post. We had all that but at the speed of London life because everything is focused on the material
@bilbotoy
Immigrant family, disadvantaged part of London, too.
I had to pay housekeeping to be at home - there have always been families that held the view that once you are an adult (16) you pay your way. I had my first job at 14.
Very different to 'We all were helped by our parents in some form either some deposit/living at home & we all went to Uni (not Oxbridge though).'
Thank you @breadcakebiscuits for your gracious response but my point is that you are the privileged (secure background, RG, etc)
It is you I have to run faster than just to stand still from a young age because of the hidden poverty in London.
Even now, if you are working and in your own home you are better off than I am. We are competing, from the start against the small amount of Westminster/St Pauls without any of the scaffolding that goes on to support communities outside of that (and it can be cultural as much as anything else).
That is why Oxbridge attract a certain type - someone on here described it once. A refugee, from a minority group, state school, hard working ethos in family, upwardly mobile supporting, parents life revolves around children, parents typically do low paid jobs. Those children know that they have to shoot for the very top because they don't have the middle class cachet that exists in communities outside the country.
But the world has fixated on a very narrow stereotype: male, white, Eton raised, to define all Oxbridge graduates.
Whose agenda does that suit, I wonder?